Another question about custody w/ no a contact order

[masopa]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? WI

My son resides primarily with me, every other Thurs-Monday with his mother. This will change to 2 weekends/month when he starts school in the fall. The current custody arrangement provides that she will have our son for all of July and August beginning next summer.

She started dating someone in Dec. In March, my son claimed that this man has been hitting him. The man's PO put a no-contact order in place, that goes through the end of July next year (when his probation is over). In April, my son's mother moved in with this man. They are supposedly getting married (might already have) sometime this month.

Now, to me, this seems ridiculous. How can my son go there for his every other weekend, extended holidays, and July/August next year when there is a no-contact order between him and the man his mother is living with? The past two times my son has visited his mother, the no contact order has been broken.

(Incidentally, I filed a motion to modify the judgment in May and it will be heard on Tuesday. My son's therapist will testify that it is in my son's best interest to cut down on the time my son spends with his mother).

It seems quite cut and dry to me (but obviously I'm biased): she is choosing this loser abuser over her child. How can this possibly work out without her losing placement time?

 

[majomom1]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? WI

My son resides primarily with me, every other Thurs-Monday with his mother. This will change to 2 weekends/month when he starts school in the fall. The current custody arrangement provides that she will have our son for all of July and August beginning next summer.

She started dating someone in Dec. In March, my son claimed that this man has been hitting him. The man's PO put a no-contact order in place, that goes through the end of July next year (when his probation is over). In April, my son's mother moved in with this man. They are supposedly getting married (might already have) sometime this month.

Now, to me, this seems ridiculous. How can my son go there for his every other weekend, extended holidays, and July/August next year when there is a no-contact order between him and the man his mother is living with? The past two times my son has visited his mother, the no contact order has been broken.

(Incidentally, I filed a motion to modify the judgment in May and it will be heard on Tuesday. My son's therapist will testify that it is in my son's best interest to cut down on the time my son spends with his mother).

It seems quite cut and dry to me (but obviously I'm biased): she is choosing this loser abuser over her child. How can this possibly work out without her losing placement time?[/QUOTE]

Mom will HAVE to make proper arrangements, within the court order and the RO. If she doesn't, she will lose time - that is HER fault, not yours. Is the hearing on Tuesday in regards to her violating the RO? Keep on it and make sure the court is aware of her time, per the court order, for next summer. It will not go well for her if she is clearly choosing this man over time with her child.

 

[LdiJ]

I will NEVER understand parents that do that. I simply can't fathom choosing someone over my child that way.

 

[masopa]

Mom will HAVE to make proper arrangements, within the court order and the RO. If she doesn't, she will lose time - that is HER fault, not yours. Is the hearing on Tuesday in regards to her violating the RO? Keep on it and make sure the court is aware of her time, per the court order, for next summer. It will not go well for her if she is clearly choosing this man over time with her child.

Well, at present, she says that the weekends that my son visits her he stays part of the time at her mother's, and the rest of the time the boyfriend stays with his parents. I can see how this works out for a weekend, but what about when my son goes there for a week at Christmas? Or for all of next July?

The hearing on Tuesday is, I believe, to get an order for a home study evaluation since I filed for a change in placement. How they intend to do that I don't know since my son's mother is 3 hours away, or why, since they just did one less than two years ago. It seems like a waste of time and money to me.

 

[profmum]

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It seems quite cut and dry to me (but obviously I'm biased): she is choosing this loser abuser over her child. How can this possibly work out without her losing placement time?

Most likely what will happen unless Mum decides to follow the order.

 

[Humusluvr]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? WI

My son resides primarily with me, every other Thurs-Monday with his mother. This will change to 2 weekends/month when he starts school in the fall. The current custody arrangement provides that she will have our son for all of July and August beginning next summer.

She started dating someone in Dec. In March, my son claimed that this man has been hitting him. The man's PO put a no-contact order in place, that goes through the end of July next year (when his probation is over). In April, my son's mother moved in with this man. They are supposedly getting married (might already have) sometime this month.

Now, to me, this seems ridiculous. How can my son go there for his every other weekend, extended holidays, and July/August next year when there is a no-contact order between him and the man his mother is living with? The past two times my son has visited his mother, the no contact order has been broken.

(Incidentally, I filed a motion to modify the judgment in May and it will be heard on Tuesday. My son's therapist will testify that it is in my son's best interest to cut down on the time my son spends with his mother).

It seems quite cut and dry to me (but obviously I'm biased): she is choosing this loser abuser over her child. How can this possibly work out without her losing placement time?

It seems like a no-brainer to me... yet it sure seems like mom isn't using her brain. It is a case of messed-up-priorities, but mom is apparently choosing booty over her child. I hope you get the placement, and that the judge gives mom hell for being an idiot.