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[haleysmom]

What is the name of your state?PA

I do try to encourage a relationship between haley and her father. I feel she needs to have a relationship with him. I grew up without a father and I do not want her to go through the pain that I did. It has been 7 months since she has last seen her father, we ran into him at a store about a month ago and she had no idea who he was. He said he wanted to start seeing her again and he would call to set up time but...nothing. She will be 2 years old in March and I feel this is the crutial time for her to reo-bond with her father. I do not want to take her away from him or him away from her but I don't want him thinking he can walk in and out of her life whenever he feels like it. He has 3 other children to a previous marriage that he pays support for and sees every week. I am pratically begging him to have a relationship with her because she needs her father. We have tried contact through his mother. I have told hi I would drop our daughter off at his mothers while I work and pick her up after my shift so he could see her and it would allow more time during the week for them to spend time with each other and still it's nothing. It's been a month since I talked to his mother and she was to tell him to contact me about this but I still have not heard from him. I hope this helps you all better understand the situation and thank you for your comments and advice. I do appreciate your feedback.

 

[snostar]

Do you have a question?

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

Do you have a question?

https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=221552

I think it is, "Lets not keep to one thread syndrome". Still not sure of the question.

 

[snostar]

https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=221552

I think it is, "Lets not keep to one thread syndrome". Still not sure of the question.

Or maybe she is looking for a magic pill to make the father want to be a Daddy.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

What is the name of your state?PA

I do try to encourage a relationship between haley and her father. I feel she needs to have a relationship with him. I grew up without a father and I do not want her to go through the pain that I did. It has been 7 months since she has last seen her father, we ran into him at a store about a month ago and she had no idea who he was. He said he wanted to start seeing her again and he would call to set up time but...nothing. She will be 2 years old in March and I feel this is the crutial time for her to reo-bond with her father. I do not want to take her away from him or him away from her but I don't want him thinking he can walk in and out of her life whenever he feels like it. He has 3 other children to a previous marriage that he pays support for and sees every week. I am pratically begging him to have a relationship with her because she needs her father. We have tried contact through his mother. I have told hi I would drop our daughter off at his mothers while I work and pick her up after my shift so he could see her and it would allow more time during the week for them to spend time with each other and still it's nothing. It's been a month since I talked to his mother and she was to tell him to contact me about this but I still have not heard from him. I hope this helps you all better understand the situation and thank you for your comments and advice. I do appreciate your feedback.

This post is the combination of your last two posts on you other thread, this is therefore a duplicate post, it is better to keep your thread together, not start a new one. What's wrong, did you not get the answer you were looking for?
Here are some answers to your questions again.

You applied for and the father pays child support, this is in the best interest of he child, you don't want to let this go, so don't think about TPR.

While the father is legally bound to pay child support now, it is up to him to petition for custody and/or visitation.

If you want to keep your child from the father, or move away without permission, you can't without the court's permission, child support is contact, he has not abandoned the child.

If you think that he can petition to stop child support because he doesn't visit, he can't.

Just because you want a relationship with him doesn't mean you can, you cannot force a relationship with either you or your child.

If his mother wants to have a relationship with her grandchild and you are willing, that is fine, you can't force it nor is she a babysitting service.

 

[Gracie3787]

What is the name of your state?PA

It has been 7 months since she has last seen her father, we ran into him at a store about a month ago and she had no idea who he was. He said he wanted to start seeing her again and he would call to set up time but...nothing.
We have tried contact through his mother.
It's been a month since I talked to his mother and she was to tell him to contact me about this but I still have not heard from him.

Has he moved or changed his phone number since the CS was ordered?
Do you know HIS address or HIS phone # or HIS place of employment?

The reason I'm asking is because contacting him ONLY through his mother (IF that is what you are doing) may be sending him a mixed message. He might be wondering why you don't contact him directly if you are really sincere about him seeing his daughter.

I don't know if this is the case or not, but I wanted to give a different prospective on it.

Unfortunately, as the old saying goes- you can lead a horse (or a horse's a**) to water, but you can't make it drink.
Good luck to you.

 

[haleysmom]

I tried to answers your questions

I didn't mean to post the same thing, I am new to this whole thing. Anyhow my ex is the one who suggested I contact him through his mother. And I don't want a relationship with him I have moved on with my life but I want him to have a relationship with our daughter. I'm not trying to force him to but he has a relationship with his other kids so I don't see why he won't bother with haley.

 

[jslopez711]

I didn't mean to post the same thing, I am new to this whole thing. Anyhow my ex is the one who suggested I contact him through his mother. And I don't want a relationship with him I have moved on with my life but I want him to have a relationship with our daughter. I'm not trying to force him to but he has a relationship with his other kids so I don't see why he won't bother with haley.

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