any advice?

[kimeez]

What is the name of your state? ct
I have a newly widowed 80 year old mother. She needs to downsize (still lives in the big house my sisters and I grew up in) and move into a senior housing.
I would like to put it on the market asap but first wanted my mother to move into a smaller place ,problem is I am dealing with a few addicts that my mother enables to come and go.(sister and niece) Plus one sister that moved in 24 years ago with no intentions of leaving. In order for the sister to move out I thought, we can entice her with a small amount of her future inheritence to get her set up in an apt.Also when we get a attorney to have them be the conservator of her estate. so sisters cant touch and is basically so my mother can live on it safely and securely .I expect to get a bunch of unprofessional responses here but am hoping to weed out the nuts to read any advice that may help, also to find out where else I might go on the web for further help with my mother.ThankyouWhat is the name of your state?

 

[BelizeBreeze]

I'll tell you what, since you didn't even ask a legal question but did decide to place a 'dig' in, I'll give you a moment to edit your post then come back.

Whether or not you do is up to you.

 

[earlofcrankcase]

My non professional response is hold up on selling the house till you talk to an estate attorney. The cost for a consultation is minimal considering what it could save you.
Once mom & you determine the best way to shelter her estate, down size the house ect. Then do it.
Mom should also make the most successful child executer of her estate. Make a will for how she wants her assets distributed. & provide that child Two dpoa's. 1 for financial written in your states format with an accurate description of her final property owned. Including lot & block # on the tax roles. 1 for medical & physician directives so said sibling can make life support decisions.
Give copies of the will to all siblings now while she is capable of answering any questions they may have.

 

[earlofcrankcase]

Did you find any good places?

 

[kimeez]

Thankyou for your advice !!
Yes I found a few places that she likes but she is on a waiting list. The leeches are talking her out of it ,(for fear they have to grow up and take care of themselves.)
I am looking into a few estate attorneys .Maybe if the attorney figures out how to appease the leech monsters then my mom can live the rest of her years in a quiet more comfortable environment (providing they dont sway her to NOT change their lives.)

 

[earlofcrankcase]

What about places to seek advice?
Looks like I'm going the other way. I think I'm going to send my mom to Oregon to live with my brother. I ask her & she says she would rather do that than go to a home.
What if? You sell the big house. Buy her a small one, she gives it to the sister that has lived with her more than two years? Why let the government get all of it? I'm going to meet with another atty & ask more explicit questions. I never did find out if I can transfer my dpoa's to another sibling.

 

[BlondiePB]

I'll tell you what, since you didn't even ask a legal question but did decide to place a 'dig' in, I'll give you a moment to edit your post then come back.

Whether or not you do is up to you.

Since "concrete-head" incorrectly as usual, BB, someone needs to provide the poster with the correct info. Hope you're feeling better.

 

[BlondiePB]

What is the name of your state? ct
I have a newly widowed 80 year old mother. She needs to downsize (still lives in the big house my sisters and I grew up in) and move into a senior housing.
I would like to put it on the market asap but first wanted my mother to move into a smaller place ,problem is I am dealing with a few addicts that my mother enables to come and go.(sister and niece) Plus one sister that moved in 24 years ago with no intentions of leaving. In order for the sister to move out I thought, we can entice her with a small amount of her future inheritence to get her set up in an apt.Also when we get a attorney to have them be the conservator of her estate. so sisters cant touch and is basically so my mother can live on it safely and securely .I expect to get a bunch of unprofessional responses here but am hoping to weed out the nuts to read any advice that may help, also to find out where else I might go on the web for further help with my mother.ThankyouWhat is the name of your state?

First of all, does your mother have any dementia?

 

[BlondiePB]

What about places to seek advice?
Looks like I'm going the other way. I think I'm going to send my mom to Oregon to live with my brother. I ask her & she says she would rather do that than go to a home.
What if? You sell the big house. Buy her a small one, she gives it to the sister that has lived with her more than two years? Why let the government get all of it? I'm going to meet with another atty & ask more explicit questions. I never did find out if I can transfer my dpoa's to another sibling.

The most accurate statement you have made is that you are clueless. There's a reason(s) why you have not received information from this site. I, for one, can answer all your questions; however, I choose NOT to. It appears that the other members choose not to answer your questions either.

https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?p=1451504#post1451504

You CANNOT transfer your DPOA to anyone. BTW, you must be MORE than a POA for Social Security to require one to do an accounting for them (SS).

earlofcrankcase, STOP GIVING POSTERS INCORRECT ADVICE & INFORMATION!!!

 

[kimeez]

what if she buys a smaller house for daughter....

Hi I just read that advice, earlofrank. can you explain what you mean?Thanks

 

[BlondiePB]

Hi I just read that advice, earlofrank. can you explain what you mean?Thanks

kimeez, this is a legal advice site not illegal advice. Taking earl's advice can/will break the law.

https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?p=1462902#post1462902

 

[BlondiePB]

I have met with second said eldercare attorney now. As of 3/29/06 options given to me in Texas to save the estate were to establish a transfer on death deed to the house. Apparently if it doesn't go through probate. Medicaid does not go after it. Second layer of protection is. If an adult unmarried child lives in the home for one year prior to her passing. The house cannot be touched. The smaller or lesser house needs to be purchased within 90 days of the closing on the first house. I have changed my mind about sending my mom to Oregon. I am going to buy a lesser house & use the extra money to pay for a private care place till a good Medicaid place becomes available. Then spend the rest of what is left on a car to qualify her.
I don't know if this the legal way to do this. The eldercare attorney I paid to advise me said she could own a car but I didn't ask if there was a timeline on it's purchase. I intend to use this loop hole to hold back enough money to last a year of private pay +.
I will know for sure before I do it.
Blondy? I know it is beyond you to try & help don't worry about it. If you want to color me bad to hide your reasoning for this I don't care. I don't have enough room left on my back to worry about your problems. Your childishness is hard enough to respond to let alone take to hart. If you can't site cases for this idea being illegal. Don't waste your time. Earlofrank? Oh no say it ain't so not you too Kimmey baby! Just kidding.

Here you go again with posting crap.

1. What does TX state laws have to do with CT state laws?

2. You need to look up conversion, which is a crime and is what you are advising posters to do.

As you previously stated, you are clueless about these things and are giving posters incorrect advice - including advising them to break the law. That is my problem with you. You need to stick to pouring concrete, something you do know.

 

[earlofcrankcase]

. What does TX state laws have to do with CT state laws?
not much that is why I wrote in in front of texas restating that I am in Texas for about the umpteenth time.

2. You need to look up conversion, which is a crime and is what you are advising posters to do.
Are you saying the eldercare atturney that I paid good money advised me to commit a crime?

 

[BlondiePB]

. What does TX state laws have to do with CT state laws?
not much that is why I wrote in in front of texas restating that I am in Texas for about the umpteenth time.

2. You need to look up conversion, which is a crime and is what you are advising posters to do.
Are you saying the eldercare atturney that I paid good money advised me to commit a crime?

You don't think posters, like Kimeez, construe that your incorrect and illegal advice for TX is something that they can do in other states?

What happened to your FREE consultation(s)? You just go ahead with your plans and in one year apply for Medicaid for your mother. Just don't come crying back here that the state of TX is charging you with conversion.

 

[BlondiePB]

. What does TX state laws have to do with CT state laws?
not much that is why I wrote in in front of texas restating that I am in Texas for about the umpteenth time.

2. You need to look up conversion, which is a crime and is what you are advising posters to do.
Are you saying the eldercare atturney that I paid good money advised me to commit a crime?

You don't think posters, like Kimeez, construe that your incorrect and illegal advice for TX is something that they can do in other states?

What happened to your FREE consultation(s)? You just go ahead with your plans and in one year apply for Medicaid for your mother. Just don't come crying back here that the state of TX is charging you with conversion.