Asking for my friends

[Rochelle]

What is the name of your state? MS

I have a friend who, after 22 years of marriage, is getting a divorce. He called her friday from the attorney's office to tell her he was filing and had rented a place of his own that day. He's been in the company of another woman lately, calling my friend from the coast to say he was with her, spent the day in New Orleans with her, etc. I told her she should toss him out on his ear then, but she believed him when he told her she was just a friend. Right. Anyway, he told her he wanted this all to be civil and quick (how convenient for him) and that she could sign the papers his attorney draws up on tuesday and in 60 days its all over. He told her she could have the house, he'd do the repairs it needs in case she decided to sell it, and that he'd still help her financially. I told her to get her own attorney. She said well, his attorney said....I told her that's the point...IT'S HIS ATTORNEY and he's obligated to look out for his client not her.

Ok, so here's my question. After 22 years, can't she ask for alimony? They have a grown daughter and grandchild, so there's no child support. Shouldn't she get everything in writing, such as who pays which bills and the division of their marital property? I told her she shouldn't be stupid enough to just take his word for anything. He told her the number of years they were together didn't matter, it was the quality. Give me a break!

 

[nailtech]

I cant answer the alimony question but my advice is.
get it quick just like he wants it, while he's being nice and in a giving mood, she could probably ask for just about anything and get it while he's being so called "HAPPY".... cause once his new found freedom goes sour, he's going to realize he wants more assets out of the divorce then he wants now... In other words get what you want while he's thinking with the wrong thing...

and if she uses HIS lawyer she will get screwed twice out of this cause his lawyer works for him just like you said, they have no responsibility towards her...

thats just my opinion...

 

[Rochelle]

My friend called me last night. They broke the news to their daughter about the divorce. The daughter automatically asked if it was because of "Susan". My friend has never mentioned that other woman and was surprised to hear her daughter say it. Then her daughter proceeded to tell her that when she was living at home, before she graduated, she'd come home from school and her dad and "Susan" would be in the bedroom. Her dad would come out and say that "Susan" had a bad headache and he was helping her by lighting candles and letting her lie down in a quiet room. Strange "Susan" couldn't do that at home.

This whole thing makes me sick. You know, I thought when a man goes through his mid-life crisis he was supposed to get a sports car and young woman. This guy got a beat up old Ford truck and "Susan" looks like a cartoon character.....she's real big up top all the way down to her hips and has these skinny toothpick legs.

 

[Rochelle]

uPDATE

My friend called me this morning. She signed the divorce papers tuesday. Another friend went to her house this morning to leave a note about her son cutting her grass for her, and guess who is at the house? Yep, the soon-to-be-ex and "Susan". My friend is beside herself. She asked him for his key to the house when they were signing the papers. He gave her one, but apparently had had another one made.

 

[nailtech]

If your friend got the house in the divorce, she now needs to change the locks to all the doors....

 

[Rochelle]

She had all the locks changed but her attorney said she had to give him a key because he still has property in the house, and the divorce is not final yet. She's been asking him to get his stuff out so she can paint the other two bedroom where he has stuff stored and then her daughter and grandson are moving in with her.

He's such a piece of crap. He told her to move the stuff into the garage and he'd get it. It's really heavy stuff, big stuff, and he knows she can't move it. I told her to have someone like Goodwill come and get it.

 

[nailtech]

well I guess its time to change the locks again.... this time dont give him a key, and dont tell him the locks are changed,.... he wont figure it out unless he's there trying to get into the house.... hopefully he got all his things when he was there last,... and she needs to add to the temporary papers that he is not to be at the house unless she is there or he makes an appt. with her to come and get the rest of his things...... buy the same kind of lock so its not noticeable and if he says anything, all she has to do is look stupid and tell him well her key works she doesnt know why his doesnt... its only for a couple of months until the divorce is final anyway... but get the paperwork done asap to keep him out of the house, cause if Susan sees something she likes of her's he just might give it to her... now thats not going to stop him from breaking a window to get in....

or better yet, rent a storage building for a month in hers and his name, hire some really big boys to move it there, send him a certified letter telling him where it is, and give him a key tell him he's got 30 days until the storage rent is up to get it out or pay the rest of the rent.... if he loses it, then he's been warned.... (first ask her lawyer if its legal to do that).....