At my wits end... (Kinda Long)

[femmesavante]

Okay, I am new here, and hopefully, I have found a place to vent my frustration related to my s/o and his pending divorce. My s/o and I have been together two years next week, and he was seperated 6 months before I met him. Last December, the divorce finally got going, and since he was not in a place where he could afford an attorney, he pretty much got reemed in court... but we made it through. He was ordered to pay half the ex's legal fees. On the court date, he set up a payment plan to pay the $800 in $50/mo. installments. We were told the divorce would be final at the end of May. Well, mid-May comes, and I tell him to call the atty. to find out the exact date things would be final. She said she was not going to do anything until she had payment in full!! Well, it would have been nice to tell us that from the beginning, but of course, she didn't. So we got together the remaining money and paid it all off. Atty. said again, it would be final two weeks after the last payment. OF course that was incorrect, because now she is saying that they have to meet one more time to sign all the final paperwork. They have had three appointments to do so, and each time the appt. has been cancelled (three weeks in a row). Now it will be one MORE week until they attempt to meet again. Of course, the ex is loving this, and every time my s/o expresses his frustration as to when it will be over, she wants to know what the rush is? PLEASE! I just feel like, she is doing something to prolong things, because she is having trouble letting go. Is there anything we can do to complete it ourselves, or must he meet his ex, with the atty, to finalize? I just think it sucks that he has been paying cs ($700/mo.) because that paperwork was filed amazingly quickly, and yet when it comes to the divorce, it is taking forever!!! Help! I am frustrated and upset about this (obviously) and need some advice!! I am seriously thinking I am going to have a nervous breakdown... and I am only 25! Thanks to all who will listen and respond.

 

[HumorMe!]

Hang in there fa! I know it seems like forever, but maybe she is hanging on because of something else. Maybe she thinks the two of you are getting married and wants to delay things for you? Don't let him act frustrated to her! It will merely add fuel to whatever is going on in her head. Be nice. In fact, be Miss Manners nice.

Unless you have some pressing engagement, or something is unsettled, then, don't worry about how long it takes. He does his part, she gets around to hers, and eventually everyone is free of the bonds of matrimony.

Who is the petitioner in this case?

HM

A judge in his golden years decided that retirement had become too boring. So he volunteered as a librarian at his local library branch.

A week later, his supervisor, a stern woman in her sixties, called him into her office.

She cleared her throat and said, "You know, I appreciate that when you were a judge you were stern with lawbreakers. And you carry that with you to your new job, which is commendable. But when someone owes an overdue fine, you can't just - "

"I had to throw the book at him," said the judge.

"I know," said the librarian, "but the Oxford English Dictionary?"

 

[femmesavante]

I guess, it is just hard since it has been two and a half years. We are planning on getting married about three months after it is final, whenever that may be. I also think that sometimes, it just gets to be too hard to sit back and let yourself be manipulated day in and day out. Right now, she has had a huge part in delaying steps that we would like to be taking toward our future. I just have to ask... how many years do you think we should sit back and do nothing...? Cause it is so frustrating. Anyway, I do appreciate your advice. Also, she is the petitioner.