Baby mama drama

[Proserpina]

"should i ask" I don't know if your married but if you are i would hope that you face your life as a team. If it you are just two individuals the why be married. I know in court I don't count but I'm his support when he walks out the door. Also in this situation i'm not only a wife but a caretaker and when the child is around she IS my responsibility.

This is not a road i would have ever thought i would take. It pains me to even think about walking away from my step daughter. I wish that, in the courts eyes, we were in a position where we could take her full time.

Please understand something. LEGALLY (and this IS a legal board), there is no "we". You are NOT party to this case unless and until a court awards you rights to this child. This isn't about how much of a family unit you are (believe me many of us are or have been in similar situations); it's about legalities. And legally...there is no "we". Don't attack "should I ask" for telling you the truth.

 

[Newlydivmomto4]

What proof does he have of a TBI? Was he ever diagnosed with a TBI while recovering from his ankle injuries?
What kind of court martial did he have? Special or General?

Bad Conduct (BCD)

Unlike an administrative discharge, a Bad Conduct Discharge (BCD) is a punitive discharge that can only be given by a court-martial (either Special or General) as punishment to an enlisted service-member. Bad conduct discharges are often preceded by a period of confinement in a military prison. The discharge itself is not executed until completion of both confinement and the appellate review process. Virtually all veterans' benefits are forfeited by a Bad Conduct Discharge.

Military discharge - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Out of curiosity, were you married to him when he was discharged or after?

 

[Artemis_ofthe_Hunt]

"should i ask" I don't know if your married but if you are i would hope that you face your life as a team. If it you are just two individuals the why be married. I know in court I don't count but I'm his support when he walks out the door. Also in this situation i'm not only a wife but a caretaker and when the child is around she IS my responsibility.

This is not a road i would have ever thought i would take. It pains me to even think about walking away from my step daughter. I wish that, in the courts eyes, we were in a position where we could take her full time.

i never wanted to leave her empty handed. The answer I was hoping for was that he could walk away but she would still received the disability and VA benefits (when we get them).

Please understand plain and simple English. YOU are not a party to ANYTHING. YOU do not receive benefits. YOUR husband receives benefits afforded to HIM for HIS service. I Do respect that you support your hubby in his time of need and other times. HOWEVER, YOU are STILL not a party to the proceedings LEGALLY involving either the child support/visitation/custody nor a party to receiving any VA/Military benefits. YOUR name doesn't appear on any documentation other than the DEERS system, should your hubby be granted what should rightfully be his.

Please understand something. LEGALLY (and this IS a legal board), there is no "we". You are NOT party to this case unless and until a court awards you rights to this child. This isn't about how much of a family unit you are (believe me many of us are or have been in similar situations); it's about legalities. And legally...there is no "we". Don't attack "should I ask" for telling you the truth.

Thank you Pro

On another note: No, I'm not married. Yes I have been. No I don't expect that you should think of yourself as separate in your family unit. But as I stated before, LEGALLY you have NO standing.

I've made my point and will stand back to either a) be blasted for speaking truth or b) thanked for pounding this into the head of yet another person who is LEGALLY close to overstepping her boundaries as step-parent, and thus, could lose her hubby any chance at custody with overstepping.