Baby Mother from Hell!!

[tammyq1]

What is the name of your state?Al
My husband is constantly being denied visitation by his child's mother. He called last night to make sure that he would get to spend part of Christmas with the child, the mother said no, and that she would just leave it up to the child to decide if she wants to come for Christmas or not, the child is 8 year old. He tries to get her on weekends as the visitation order says, she will not cooperate. She is really being difficult, this has gone on for the last 6 years, since my husband and I began a relationship. He is so hurt by not being able to see his child. The courts in Alabama seem to favor the mother and we hate to have to spend money and not get any results in getting her to comply with the visitation order.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

Unless the visitation order stipulates that he has rights to see the child this christmas, then she is well within her rights to deny it.
You also never stated whether there is a visitation order or not. If not, then why the hell not. If so, then each and every time she denies visitation he needs to either document the abuse and file a motion to show cause for contempt of court or file on each and every denial.

 

[tammyq1]

Thanks

Thanks Belize, yes, there is a visitation order he is supposed to have her for half of Christmas holiday. I will definetly start documenting his visitation and also recording the phone conversations as proof. You would be amazed at the things this woman says. I just really pray she will not destroy his relationship with his daughter. She is a wonderful child. Her mother is just so bitter and spiteful. Again, Thanks and Happy Holidays!

 

[BelizeBreeze]

Thanks Belize, yes, there is a visitation order he is supposed to have her for half of Christmas holiday. I will definetly start documenting his visitation and also recording the phone conversations as proof. You would be amazed at the things this woman says. I just really pray she will not destroy his relationship with his daughter. She is a wonderful child. Her mother is just so bitter and spiteful. Again, Thanks and Happy Holidays!

YOU don't do a thing. You are a legal stranger in this situation and have no legal standing. HE needs to do this period. If you step one foot into this situation you can very easily jeapordize his rights to gain in court.

 

[stealth2]

Thanks Belize, yes, there is a visitation order he is supposed to have her for half of Christmas holiday. I will definetly start documenting his visitation and also recording the phone conversations as proof. You would be amazed at the things this woman says. I just really pray she will not destroy his relationship with his daughter. She is a wonderful child. Her mother is just so bitter and spiteful. Again, Thanks and Happy Holidays!

You don't really mean to say that six years have gone by and he hasn't been documenting the visitation problems... do you?

 

[tammyq1]

Baby Mother from Hell

Stealth, no, he just called prior to each time he was supposed to have his daughter and the mother always says the child is busy with one thing or another. The last 3 years have been worse, he calls and talks with his daughter whenever the mother feels like letting him speak with her. And you are right, I will not get involved as I have no rights, it is just so hard watching him suffer through this. I told him that he is the one who must keep detailed records of his interactions with the mother and when and if he is allowed to see the child. I just hope she will see the error of her ways soon and realize the child is the one who suffers in this situation.

Thanks for all the wonderful advice.

 

[bubbly602]

Someone else will prob'ly post this...

but I haven't seen it yet, and I'm not sure it applies here. I've seen it said many times in these forums that if someone doesn't show up for visitation, then visitation is not being denied. I'm not sure if it is different since the OP's husband is being told on the phone that he won't be allowed. Given the phone conversations where she tells him he can't see his child, does he still need to attempt to pick up the child before it's considered a denial of visitation? Someone who has more knowledge than I will hopefully answer this for you. Good luck.

 

[casa]

What is the name of your state?Al
My husband is constantly being denied visitation by his child's mother. He called last night to make sure that he would get to spend part of Christmas with the child, the mother said no, and that she would just leave it up to the child to decide if she wants to come for Christmas or not, the child is 8 year old. He tries to get her on weekends as the visitation order says, she will not cooperate. She is really being difficult, this has gone on for the last 6 years, since my husband and I began a relationship. He is so hurt by not being able to see his child. The courts in Alabama seem to favor the mother and we hate to have to spend money and not get any results in getting her to comply with the visitation order.

If the visitation order says he has the child on weekends, he needs to SHOW UP and contact law enforcement if/when she refuses to release the child. Make a police report everytime she refuses to release the child- Then take those reports to court and file contempt charges.

A judge will NOT favor any parent who purposely keeps a child from the other parent- Especially when it is already ordered that the parent has visitation rights.

 

[stepmom&mom]

Unfortunately, as in my city, many law enforcement agencies refuse to even file a report stating that they do not interfere in civil matters.

 

[casa]

Unfortunately, as in my city, many law enforcement agencies refuse to even file a report stating that they do not interfere in civil matters.

They may not wish to 'Do' anything- but you CAN file a police report. You simply demand to file a report, &/or get a copy of the police dept. call log showing date/time/address and reason for the officer having to appear at the adress. If you file a report, get a copy of that also. A report doesn't mean the officer agrees or that the other parent is charged with anything, it just means there is documentation that you were there- the other parent didn't release the child and that you had a court order at the time.
BTW you won't get the same officer every call either- So don't assume because one officer did not help you, that none will.