Being kicked out... help!

[Dv8Angel]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? California

A few months back my boyfriend, my daughter and I were in need of a place to stay and a friend offered us a room in a house that he leases (I'll call him J). J doesn't own the house and I doubt his landlord knows he is renting rooms out. His 19-year-old daughter is in the room next to ours and he has another roommate who lives downstairs. He said we could stay there as long as we wanted and treated us like part of the family. We paid more than our share of the rent, groceries, etc., because J is currently out of work. Anyway J decided to move 3 more people into the basement. Which was just too many people in my opinion but we were dealing with it. Now J's telling us that one of the three from the basement needs our room so we need to get out by this weekend. I told him that wasn't legal and he threatened to throw all of our stuff out on the lawn if we didn't leave right away. He was yelling and throwing a fit and really scared me. What can I do? Does he have the right to do this? I don't want to be here either but we have nowhere else to go right now.

 

[ariastar]

Get out ASAP unless you want your daughter living in a hostile environment. Regardless of what the law says, your daughter's best interest isn't going to be protected if she is having to live with someone who may get violent, and it doesn't sound like a safe situation with him letting more people move in as long as there's room on the floor. Protect her, and screw if the law gives you X time.

Get out, get a cheap motel, and contact the landlord.

 

[Banned_Princess]

30 second to the point.

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? California

everyone is.

A few months back my boyfriend, my daughter and I were in need of a place to stay and a friend offered us a room in a house that he leases

A really really big house? I mean how many ppl live there and how come the landlord/owner of the house doesn't know about it.

(I'll call him J). J doesn't own the house and I doubt his landlord knows he is renting rooms out.

Guess who is going to have to find out about this.

His 19-year-old daughter is in the room next to ours and he has another roommate who lives downstairs. He said we could stay there as long as we wanted and treated us like part of the family. We paid more than our share of the rent, groceries, etc., because J is currently out of work. Anyway J decided to move 3 more people into the basement. Which was just too many people in my opinion but we were dealing with it. Now J's telling us that one of the three from the basement needs our room so we need to get out by this weekend.

No, you do not have to do that yet. but when I tell you to call the town/county/code enforcement in, you will probably have to, since all are going to have to leave.

Are all these "roommates" legal citizens?

I told him that wasn't legal and he threatened to throw all of our stuff out on the lawn if we didn't leave right away

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I would promptly call 911 and have them over right away.

He was yelling and throwing a fit and really scared me

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911

What can I do?

You can call the authorities on this living arrangement, 911 when he is threatening you, and you can try to find somewhere else to go, real soon. I'm sure you don't want to continue to live in that environment anyway.

Does he have the right to do this?

He actually didn't have the right to move your family into one room in the first place, but he did, now you have to go. or will have to go when it all comes down to it, anyway. but you wont be the only one.

I don't want to be here either but we have nowhere else to go right now.

Find one. are you just going to sit around till this whole thing blows over? O.K good luck with that.

 

[Banned_Princess]

Get out ASAP unless you want your daughter living in a hostile environment. Regardless of what the law says, your daughter's best interest isn't going to be protected if she is having to live with someone who may get violent, and it doesn't sound like a safe situation with him letting more people move in as long as there's room on the floor. Protect her, and screw if the law gives you X time.

Get out, get a cheap motel, and contact the landlord.

Hear hear.

 

[Dv8Angel]

Thanks for your responses... yes everyone is legal and yes it is a very big house. Very nice too, just crowded. My daughter is 16 and a little hostile herself actually. She is J's main complaint. Even though his actions were a little frightening, I don't think J would ever actually hurt anyone but he might take our things and throw them out. If he did... would the police help?

 

[Banned_Princess]

Yes. take pictures to hold him responsible for any damage.

You need to get your own home, what are you doing there with a 16 year old daughter.

does she even have her own space? This is more disturbing then I had initially thought.

 

[Dv8Angel]

Yes. take pictures to hold him responsible for any damage.

You need to get your own home, what are you doing there with a 16 year old daughter.

does she even have her own space? This is more disturbing then I had initially thought.

She DID have the basement before the other 3 people moved in. So now I remain nun-like. It really is disturbing. Hotels are not cheap in California anywhere and the environment in one that would be would not be right for my daughter either. We just need a little more time to save up enough to move. Before we didn't think we were going to have to move and therefore were giving all of our money to J and for groceries as well as our own expenses.

 

[phase08]

This is more disturbing then I had initially thought.

I agree, BP. <scratching my head>

OP = What was bf doing while all this yelling and threatening was going on (by his “friend”)? Why didn’t you call the police when the incident happened?
Now you’re implying that your daughter is hard to deal with and saying you “don’t think” he would hurt anyone . . .you’re making excuses for this guy.

What is it you want from us?

 

[Dv8Angel]

I agree, BP. <scratching my head>

OP = What was bf doing while all this yelling and threatening was going on (by his “friend”)? Why didn’t you call the police when the incident happened?
Now you’re implying that your daughter is hard to deal with and saying you “don’t think” he would hurt anyone . . .you’re making excuses for this guy.

What is it you want from us?

What difference does it make what my boyfriend was doing? Doesn't anyone in this forum have a clue as to the legalities of this issue? I don't care about your personal opinions, so keep them to yourself. The thing is, I am aware of the legalities of the issue, I just wanted a little back up because my uncle wasn't available. It is sad when you go to a forum that offers "Outstanding Advice" on legal issues and you get answers from rude people who care not for your situation but rather make assumptions based on speed reading tactics.

 

[Banned_Princess]

What difference does it make what my boyfriend was doing? Doesn't anyone in this forum have a clue as to the legalities of this issue? I don't care about your personal opinions, so keep them to yourself. The thing is, I am aware of the legalities of the issue, I just wanted a little back up because my uncle wasn't available. It is sad when you go to a forum that offers "Outstanding Advice" on legal issues and you get answers from rude people who care not for your situation but rather make assumptions based on speed reading tactics.

Yo, I answered the legalities of this long back. Now we get to give our oppinions. like it or not. And it was Outstandingadvice if you ask me.

Ha, ha, everybodys got a lawyer unkle.

 

[phase08]

What difference does it make what my boyfriend was doing? Doesn't anyone in this forum have a clue as to the legalities of this issue? I don't care about your personal opinions, so keep them to yourself. The thing is, I am aware of the legalities of the issue, I just wanted a little back up because my uncle wasn't available. It is sad when you go to a forum that offers "Outstanding Advice" on legal issues and you get answers from rude people who care not for your situation but rather make assumptions based on speed reading tactics.

hmmm. I see. Getting defensive, eh? Okay, fine. Good luck with all your drama. Congratulations on already knowing the answers before you posted here. By all means, don't let us take up anymore of your time.



(Gets tiresome how people come here and inject some mythical "friend" and even a relative into the story to try to cover up their shabby relationship choices.)

 

[Ridddle]

Yo, I answered the legalities of this long back. Now we get to give our oppinions. like it or not. And it was Outstandingadvice if you ask me.

Ha, ha, everybodys got a lawyer unkle.

I am glad you said that Princess....I gave an opinion after the experts gave the legal advice and I got jumped on by 2 of the old timers saying we are only to give legal answers although when I post questions sometimes I like the opnions too. Good advice by the way!!!