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What is the name of your state?WA {the long story state}
Question: What am I supposed to do when the BM is unable to be contacted, again?
Well, it's been since December since I posted about the dissappearance of and miraculous re-appearance of my children's mother. Since her re-introduction, she and the children moved in with her brother about 30 minutes from my house and we have maintained visitation every-other-week without any hassles. The children call me whenever they feel like it and I can call them without being hung up on.
On Sunday, January 9th, when the BM picked up my children after a visit, she had asked if my family and I would pray for her health. There was no explanation.
On Friday, January 21st, when I went to her brothers house to pick up my children for the weekend, I approached her sister-in-law about the request (not within earshot of my children). She said that the BM had gone into the hospital the previous day and was getting tests done to find out what was going on.
On Sunday, January 23rd, her brother was early to pick up the children so we sat around the living room and talked a bit. I was not very inquisitive, but asked how his sister was doing and he really seemed not to know or even know where she was. I did ask about the 2 year old (since I had not seen him on Friday when I picked up my children) and he said that he was at the house but maybe his mom had him on Friday. (The mom, or GM as you might remember, still has the oldest child living with her, not biologically mine, and the 2 year old is not mine). My youngest child was not really paying attention but blutered out that the toddler was with his mother.
When the brother left with my children, I called over to his house and talked more with his wife. She did not seem to know very much except that they were taking lot's of tests and she was going to be airbussed to another hospital for surgery.
I followed up on the day of Wedon (January 26) and spoke more with the sisiter-in-law. She said she got in trouble for telling me too much and was now punished by being kept even more mushroom-like (kept in the dark and fed crap). She seemed very sincere to me and expressed that she could not figure out why the BM would want to be so secretive. She even suggested that I should be the one to take my kids to visit her in the hospital.
Anyway, my children called that night and I learned nothing else, except my youngest still thinks that his 2 year-old brother is in the hospital with his mom. I don't understand how that is possible.
As some may recall, I had been kept oblivious of the BM's whereabouts from October 24, 2004, until a court hearing in December where she showed up to reclaim our children after misleading the court. During that time, my children moved away from their home of 3 years, changed schools and moved into their GM's house without any notice to me. I had to track them down through the public school system.
I am not a watchdog, nor do I have any interests in any type of control over my ex's life. But, I feel that we need to keep an open channel of communication for the sake of the children and at this time I feel that the children and I are being unnecessarilly lied to. This entire scenario seems too coincidental and suspicious.
Is it possible for her to set up some legal paperwork for the children to be granted custody to someone other than me in the event of her death or other circumstance which would not allow for her to take care of them? My inclination is to meet with an attorney to make sure that in the event of an emergency, there is no question as to where the children would live. In fact, since she is again out of the picture, I am also inclined to proceed with a custody case.
Question: What am I supposed to do when the BM is unable to be contacted, again?
Well, it's been since December since I posted about the dissappearance of and miraculous re-appearance of my children's mother. Since her re-introduction, she and the children moved in with her brother about 30 minutes from my house and we have maintained visitation every-other-week without any hassles. The children call me whenever they feel like it and I can call them without being hung up on.
On Sunday, January 9th, when the BM picked up my children after a visit, she had asked if my family and I would pray for her health. There was no explanation.
On Friday, January 21st, when I went to her brothers house to pick up my children for the weekend, I approached her sister-in-law about the request (not within earshot of my children). She said that the BM had gone into the hospital the previous day and was getting tests done to find out what was going on.
On Sunday, January 23rd, her brother was early to pick up the children so we sat around the living room and talked a bit. I was not very inquisitive, but asked how his sister was doing and he really seemed not to know or even know where she was. I did ask about the 2 year old (since I had not seen him on Friday when I picked up my children) and he said that he was at the house but maybe his mom had him on Friday. (The mom, or GM as you might remember, still has the oldest child living with her, not biologically mine, and the 2 year old is not mine). My youngest child was not really paying attention but blutered out that the toddler was with his mother.
When the brother left with my children, I called over to his house and talked more with his wife. She did not seem to know very much except that they were taking lot's of tests and she was going to be airbussed to another hospital for surgery.
I followed up on the day of Wedon (January 26) and spoke more with the sisiter-in-law. She said she got in trouble for telling me too much and was now punished by being kept even more mushroom-like (kept in the dark and fed crap). She seemed very sincere to me and expressed that she could not figure out why the BM would want to be so secretive. She even suggested that I should be the one to take my kids to visit her in the hospital.
Anyway, my children called that night and I learned nothing else, except my youngest still thinks that his 2 year-old brother is in the hospital with his mom. I don't understand how that is possible.
As some may recall, I had been kept oblivious of the BM's whereabouts from October 24, 2004, until a court hearing in December where she showed up to reclaim our children after misleading the court. During that time, my children moved away from their home of 3 years, changed schools and moved into their GM's house without any notice to me. I had to track them down through the public school system.
I am not a watchdog, nor do I have any interests in any type of control over my ex's life. But, I feel that we need to keep an open channel of communication for the sake of the children and at this time I feel that the children and I are being unnecessarilly lied to. This entire scenario seems too coincidental and suspicious.
Is it possible for her to set up some legal paperwork for the children to be granted custody to someone other than me in the event of her death or other circumstance which would not allow for her to take care of them? My inclination is to meet with an attorney to make sure that in the event of an emergency, there is no question as to where the children would live. In fact, since she is again out of the picture, I am also inclined to proceed with a custody case.
