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[Pony1]

Hi, I live in CA.

I have a pending trial coming up. All I'm asking for is Orange County Mediation Guidelines for Joint Legal Custody...every other weekend, every other holiday, several weeks in the summer,etc. but my ex can't handle the idea that my fiance is going to be my daughter's stepmom. (Biological mom has already married someone and I have no problem with my daughter having a stepdad.) She's trying to find any excuse she can to keep me from having frequent and continuing contact with my daughter. Example: I had my daughter a few weeks ago on the weekend. Before that weekend, bio. mom asked me to keep her home for the weekend because she was sick and had a fever. My family had planned an important party for my grandparents' anniversary, people flew in from all over the country. I was a big part of the party and my daughter had a part in it as well. The party was on Sunday and there was no way we could miss it. I kept her home all day on Saturday and her fever went away. I gave her all the medicine, plenty of rest and fluids, etc. When she woke up Sun. morning she had no fever again and I gave her her medicine again, etc. At the party I made her take it easy and didn't let her run around with the other kids or go outside. I took her home early and put her to bed early. When she woke up Mon. morning she was fine, in good spirits, with no fever. I gave her her medicine again and took her to school. I called her teacher that afternoon and asked how she was. She said that she was fine and showed no sign of sickness. She went back with her mom after school that day. Her mom was very upset that I took her to the party on Sunday, even though she was fine on Monday. She said that she got sick again Monday afternoon and had to miss school on Tuesday. It's the 3rd time she's gotten sick in a month. Bio. mom said that I was very irresponsible and that she was going to use this against me in court. I said that it was my custdial time and I have the right to make the day-to-day decisions. My question is: Will this affect my visitation? Will this prevent me from seeing my daughter? Can't I say that she was fine all weekend and all day at school on Monday? Can this damage my chances in court even though when I took her to school she was fine and stayed fine the whole school day? Your thoughts are greatly appreciated.

 

[jamiet]

OMG. your situation is so similar to the one my husband is going through with his exgirlfriend!!! I dont think it will hurt your chances because like you said you are the residential parent when it is your alloted time to be with the child. Does that mean your ex has never made a bad decision-any parent does-my mom did. I think youll be fine. She is just blowing off hot air more than likley. My husbands ex is getting married and he has no problem with that or the child having a step dad. But the mother hates me because my husband pretty much left her and went out with me a week later and now we are married. I guess she hoped they would get back together. But I had known my hubby for six years previous and they only went out for four weeks. That was his first gf and when I saw he was in trouble I began trying to support him and we got together. Our pretrial date has been set for Nov 6th. We are having to take her to court to get any kind of visitation. He pays support and has tried to negotiate with the bm and she is unreasonable. Know how you feel.

 

[usdeeper]

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My question is: Will this affect my visitation? Will this prevent me from seeing my daughter? Can't I say that she was fine all weekend and all day at school on Monday? Can this damage my chances in court even though when I took her to school she was fine and stayed fine the whole school day? Your thoughts are greatly appreciated.
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Explain the situation as you have done here and you will be fine. A judge is not going to strip you of visitation because of this. You can also ask the teacher to write a note explain the child was fine when they left school Chances are, the mother lied about the child being sick and kept her off school Tuesday to prove a point.

 

[Christina27]

Its too bad that your ex has ill feelings towards you. You did the best that you can. Does your daughter's mom work? If she had to take a day off, maybe you can offer to take your daughter sometime when she's sick during the school week. Maybe this would get her off her back. Just a suggestion. Otherwise, I wouldn't worry about it. Once a fever breaks, the children are usually fine to even return to school. Its not your fault. Things happen.