calling CPS on mom

[crackabee]

What is the name of your state? TX

CPS had been called on daughters mother because of an incident where she assaulted someone with daughter in her arms. CPS was called because mother gets too violent and angry in front of child and puts her in potentially violent situation. Mom must have gotten a visit from caseworker and called leaving a message saying that the caseworker already told her while she was there ( for initial visit) that the case was a bunch of crap and that nothing would be done. She then went on threatening that we could go back to court again and I would lose time with my daughter because I keep messing with her and if i had anything to say to her, that i needed to call her back and not to call CPS again. I really dont believe that a caseworker after meeting her for the first time would tell her she thought the case was "crap" or really tell her anything until after she did the paperwork. Was she just feeding me a line to scare me because she is the one who is scared, or would CPS caseworker tell her outright that there wasnt much of a case there on the first time visit?

 

[casa]

What is the name of your state? TX

CPS had been called on daughters mother because of an incident where she assaulted someone with daughter in her arms. CPS was called because mother gets too violent and angry in front of child and puts her in potentially violent situation. Mom must have gotten a visit from caseworker and called leaving a message saying that the caseworker already told her while she was there ( for initial visit) that the case was a bunch of crap and that nothing would be done. She then went on threatening that we could go back to court again and I would lose time with my daughter because I keep messing with her and if i had anything to say to her, that i needed to call her back and not to call CPS again. I really dont believe that a caseworker after meeting her for the first time would tell her she thought the case was "crap" or really tell her anything until after she did the paperwork. Was she just feeding me a line to scare me because she is the one who is scared, or would CPS caseworker tell her outright that there wasnt much of a case there on the first time visit?

Save the message and when the caseworker contacts you (or you contact them) let them listen to it.

Is the CPS case the only issue or is there any pending custody/visitation issues in court?

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state? TX

CPS had been called on daughters mother because of an incident where she assaulted someone with daughter in her arms. CPS was called because mother gets too violent and angry in front of child and puts her in potentially violent situation. Mom must have gotten a visit from caseworker and called leaving a message saying that the caseworker already told her while she was there ( for initial visit) that the case was a bunch of crap and that nothing would be done. She then went on threatening that we could go back to court again and I would lose time with my daughter because I keep messing with her and if i had anything to say to her, that i needed to call her back and not to call CPS again. I really dont believe that a caseworker after meeting her for the first time would tell her she thought the case was "crap" or really tell her anything until after she did the paperwork. Was she just feeding me a line to scare me because she is the one who is scared, or would CPS caseworker tell her outright that there wasnt much of a case there on the first time visit?

Well, certainly the CPS worker wouldn't use that particular language. However, yes, if the worker feels that the case is "unfounded" they will likely say so on the first visit.

Just exactly how did mom assault someone? In what way? Were the police involved?

 

[crackabee]

Yes. We went to court for custody and to set up child support. The temporary decision was for joint managing conservatorship, her being able to determine residence of child. She was arrested for DWI and has yet to go to court for that, has pending assault charges, and has recently violated the court order for drinking 12 hrs prior to possession of our daughter which will all be brought up at the final hearing in december.

 

[opus05]

My husband's grandmother called CPS on me when I refused to let her feed my four month old really lumpy mashed potatoes (she stated that I was "depriving my daughter of the nutrients she needed to thrive and that I was basically starving her) The case worker DID tell me at her first visit that as far as she was concerned, I was in no way abusing my daughter, BUT that didn't mean the case was closed. I still had to take her to numerous dr's visits in order for them to write a written report that she was in no way being neglected.

When you called CPS, did you actually witness first hand the behavior of your ex, or did you recieve that information from someone else?

 

[crackabee]

The mother cant accept that I have moved on and has repeatedly tried to get me to break up with my girlfriend, but either using my daughter as a weapon as far as visitation goes or by assaulting my girlfriend. This time she smashed my girlfriend with the car door and then after she grabbed my daughter out of my arms, and while holding her, she smashed my girlfriend again with the door and then punched her in the face. The police were called and charges were pressed.

 

[crackabee]

Well thanks for the advice. Hopefully we will hear something soon.

 

[LdiJ]

Well thanks for the advice. Hopefully we will hear something soon.

You do realize that you "fueled the fire" by having your girlfriend present at the exchange don't you?

 

[crackabee]

You do realize that you "fueled the fire" by having your girlfriend present at the exchange don't you?

Its funny that you say that because I dont see how that can be, considering her boyfriend is usually present as well. So it could be said that she "tries" to fuel a fire herself.This was the first time I had ever brought my gf. So it obviously was not to provoke an attack. It shouldnt matter who is there. She had a choice that day. She could control her self like a normal person, or she could act like total psycho in front of our child. She made the choice to do the latter. It has been almost 2 years now that we have not been together, its no ones fault that she cant accept that but her own. There is absolutely no justification in her actions, unless people just assault one another all the time where you are from . As far as I am concerned, the fire is and has been out. I wont bring my gf to pick up or drop my daughter up as a rule, espcially not now, but there are going to be times, especially if we get engaged or married, that she will be with me, and I wont walk on pins and needles forever just to please a jealous ex.

 

[dallas702]

And while all this "smashing" and "punching" was going on, what were you doing?

LdiJ is right, though. Even though you may need your gf close by to be witness to any extreme behavior you should have her stay far enough away that she doesn't get involved physically. That just makes both of you look like you're itching for a fight.

 

[stepmom&mom]

Did you file a police report immediately after this happened? Calling CPS isn't going to help much if you don't have a police report to back it up. Otherwise, it's just your word against hers.

 

[crackabee]

As all this was going on I was trying to get daughter from mother so she wouldnt get hurt. Mom was thrashing about and slamming her self onto the door with daughter on her hip. Boyf just stood several feet away and did not attempt to help me. Daughter was so upset and crying, and her mother just kept hitting gf with car door and never cared. It breaks my heart that my daughter had to see something so terrible. It makes me furious that mom put her in such a dangerous situation. If she loved our daughter, her safety would come first, and she could be selfish and angry about gf later. She is making this about her because she is angry, and she makes our daughter pay for it.



See i brought gf along this day because we were actually dropping daughter off with her grandma. It wasnt until we were almost to grandmas that mom called and said grandma was mia and that she would come and get her. Grandma has seen gf before and has no problem with her being in the car at the dropoff. Mom seems to be the only one it bothers.

We found out later that day that mom and boyf had been drinking just before the pick up, so that would explain a lot right there. Mom probably wouldnt have attacked gf had she not been drinking.

 

[stealth2]

Of course, if your g/f had stayed in the car (or walked away from the car door the first time she was hit with it), seems like nothing would have happened. Mom's b/f at least stayed completely out of the entire fracas.

 

[sbaldwin]

If the OP and his ex have been apart for 2 years now and she brings her BF for drop off and pick up, why should he not be allowed to have someone accompany him? It is not the GF's or the OP's fault that the ex chose to be violent instead of controlling her actions. Had the OP or the GF been the one getting physical, I would hope the ex would have done the same thing the OP did...

 

[stealth2]

I'm not saying OP shouldn't - but there are obviously issues, and it's curious that the g/f didn't stay in the car (as apparently she usually does) nor did she apparently move away from the car door that was being slammed into her. Just strickes me as a huge clusterf*ck all around.