Can anyone advise me?

[Scotlass]

Colorado.

My case was set in NJ a number of years ago and I have since relocated to Colorado. I am paying the same amount as I was in NJ (actually more given the cost of living adjustments etc., over the years). My question is that my case has been transferred to CO but my ex relocated from NJ to VA a year or so ago and I recently received a cost of living adjustment from NJ! I want to know why the rate is increasing at a standard set in NJ when neither one of us live there - this doesn't seem fair as expenses in NJ are far higher than in VA. Also, is there a maximum percentage amount that Child Support can deduct from ones pay as I am presently paying 40% of my salary BEFORE taxes etc., and I have a wife and child to support - it's crushing me.
Can anyone advise me if this is being handled correctly?

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Colorado.

My case was set in NJ a number of years ago and I have since relocated to Colorado. I am paying the same amount as I was in NJ (actually more given the cost of living adjustments etc., over the years). My question is that my case has been transferred to CO but my ex relocated from NJ to VA a year or so ago and I recently received a cost of living adjustment from NJ! I want to know why the rate is increasing at a standard set in NJ when neither one of us live there - this doesn't seem fair as expenses in NJ are far higher than in VA. Also, is there a maximum percentage amount that Child Support can deduct from ones pay as I am presently paying 40% of my salary BEFORE taxes etc., and I have a wife and child to support - it's crushing me.
Can anyone advise me if this is being handled correctly?

That's the going rate in many states but unless and untill jurisdiction is moved NJ will retian jurisdiction as least insofar as child support. You may want to file for midifications due to the move. Did you and the court approve the move to VA? Who is paying for transportaiton for visitation? You knew before you got married that you had an obligation for q8 years to support your child, you could have been in NY where you would be paying until age 21!

 

[Scotlass]

Thanks for the reply - Just to clear things up in case I gave the wrong impression, I have NO problem paying child support - I love my kids, I just didn't know that if neither one of us lived in NJ and my case was transferred to my state, why her case wasn't moved to HER state and why NJ is still handling this. AS far as visitation - I would have to pay to fly to see them (and probably for them to see me, but she hasn't allowed me to talk to them for approx 8 years as she is bitter at my remarriage).

 

[NotSoNew]

I just didn't know that if neither one of us lived in NJ and my case was transferred to my state, why her case wasn't moved to HER state and why NJ is still handling this.

because someone has to file to ask for it to be transferred, if she would get more from NJ then shes not going to do it! So it would be on you to file for it to change jurisdiction!

 

[MominMass]

She hasn't allowed you to talk to them in eight years?!!! Do you have any visitation rights? If you do, and you love your kids as you claim to, excercise your visitation rights and get your butt to their front door with court order in hand. If she refuses to allow you to see them, file for contempt. Once you get into the appropriate court for that issue, you can address the financial issues. Your problem seems to be that you are not willing to do the work it takes to address and resolve your problems. You could fly to see your kids for a few hundred bucks. Stay at a Red Roof for a week for a few hundred more. You might not initially succeed in seeing your kids, but they will know that you made the effort. Actions speak louder than words. Good luck.

 

[stealth2]

In addition, the original guidelines do often stand to avoid benefiting a parent who is "shopping" for a better deal.