Jetblue9557
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What is the name of your state? California
Depends...but you haven't provided any details so who can really say.What is the name of your state? California
How do you know that the OP's income would be enough to do that and if the OP could even get a job with benefits?I don't understand your justification for staying home. Your income and benefits woud enabled you to obtain PROFESSIONAL help for your children.
What did your attorney say about the court's action?
Neither a child with ADD or one with childhood psychological trauma REQUIRES a SAHM. They should be in school during the day.How do you know that the OP's income would be enough to do that and if the OP could even get a job with benefits?
This is one of those times when you are expressing an opinion that would be extremely offensive to most parents with children with special needs.Neither a child with ADD or one with childhood psychological trauma REQUIRES a SAHM. They should be in school during the day.
See my previous response.The court order is obviously at least 11 years old. A responsible single person would have done something to acquire the skills to be self sufficient. What would she do if the money tree died? SS would not be enough to survive in most locations. Every able person should strive to be self sufficient; parents have even a greater responsibility. If mom is so disabled that she is unable to work, how is she able to care for two children whose disabilities she claims to be so great as to require her constant attention. I see a person who would rather whine than act.
See my previous response.As for the legal issues, she needs to consult an attorney as there seems to be lot missing in her narrative. I expect, based on the judge's actions, that there are significant facts left out so nothing said on this forum would be accurate (other than to get a lawyer!).
I have a child with "special needs" including severe ADHD, learning disabilities and now serious mental illness with past suicide attempts and cancer. I worked full time with him and three other children in a demanding job often requiring overtime (at times 7 days a week, unpaid since I was salaried) with, at times, a significant commute. It was my job and benefits that paid for hospitalizations, treatment, educational services, special equipment, ...This is one of those times when you are expressing an opinion that would be extremely offensive to most parents with children with special needs.
See my previous response.
See my previous response.
As was mentioned above, every situation is different. My 3 kids required a stay-at-home-parent. That is, a parent who was available at the (unpredictable) drop of a hat to respond to matters that arose at school. There is no way that parent could have maintained a typical day-time job.Neither a child with ADD or one with childhood psychological trauma REQUIRES a SAHM. They should be in school during the day.
I never said it requires constant availabilty. I said it requires unpredictable availability. Most jobs aren't "flexible" enough to allow a parent to get a phone call and be on the road to the school in 5 minutes. Furthermore, how is it right to just expect that someone will have other people who can shoulder their responsibility for them all the time. Sure, occasionally it might work, but it's not something that can be relied on in all (or even most) cases.In her case she mentioned ADD which is a condition that can be handled by others.. The other child likely required psych services. How does this require constant availability of a parent? Why would another responsible adult not be sufficient?