can he prevent me from moving?

[flygrl]

What is the name of your state? KY

My X moved to CA 2 years ago. We have no family in KY (not his or mine). I want to move to FL to be close to my sisters. I have sole custody and there is nothing in my custody papers that says that I can't move or that he has to approve it (in fact, there is no language in the custody papers regarding moving at all).

He does not want him to move because he does business here and can get his company to pay for his plane tickets - he only has visitation when he has business.

He makes a huge 6 figure income - so buying plane tickets once a month is not even an issue for him.

Can he prevent me from moving?

 

[tigger22472]

What is the name of your state? KY

My X moved to CA 2 years ago. We have no family in KY (not his or mine). I want to move to FL to be close to my sisters. I have sole custody and there is nothing in my custody papers that says that I can't move or that he has to approve it (in fact, there is no language in the custody papers regarding moving at all).

He does not want him to move because he does business here and can get his company to pay for his plane tickets - he only has visitation when he has business.

He makes a huge 6 figure income - so buying plane tickets once a month is not even an issue for him.

Can he prevent me from moving?

You still have to notify him and if he wants to contest he can. YOU will likely be responsible for the extra money it would cost to fly from Fl. than from KY.

On top of this, this is going to be AT LEAST your second move in a short period and could make you look unstable... I know I know.. you don't believe that nor do you care... whatever. I am just giving you the legal answer.

 

[flygrl]

thank you for the reply. On what grounds can he contest since he does not live here anymore either?

Also, yes - I moved from Cincinnati to KY - but it is all the same major metropolitan area and I moved to get out of a two bedroom condo to a house since we outgrew the condo (housing across the river are a lot less expensive).

 

[tigger22472]

thank you for the reply. On what grounds can he contest since he does not live here anymore either?

Also, yes - I moved from Cincinnati to KY - but it is all the same major metropolitan area and I moved to get out of a two bedroom condo to a house since we outgrew the condo (housing across the river are a lot less expensive).

It doesn't matter you intend to make the distance between dad and children FURTHER, not to mention the prior move also. He can contest on the grounds that it's not in the children's best interest. Doesn't mean he will or that he will win, just means he can.

 

[flygrl]

thank you - then I will counter that if he was so concerned - he should not have moved to CA in the first place. I will also state that the distance is so great at this point that he can only visit utilizing airline travel and that the minor inconvenience of a longer flight does not compare with the children having aunts and cousins in the same geographical area. In addition, they will be able to receive a better education as the schools where we plan to relocate are some of the finest in the state of FL and far better than the schools in KY.

Thank you for that information. I know how to counter.

 

[haiku]

thank you - then I will counter that if he was so concerned - he should not have moved to CA in the first place. I will also state that the distance is so great at this point that he can only visit utilizing airline travel and that the minor inconvenience of a longer flight does not compare with the children having aunts and cousins in the same geographical area. In addition, they will be able to receive a better education as the schools where we plan to relocate are some of the finest in the state of FL and far better than the schools in KY.

Thank you for that information. I know how to counter.

we ALL know why he moved****************************

There are no decent schools on Florida...LOL

 

[flygrl]

It doesn't matter WHY he moved. If the man had loved his children - he would have taken steps to get custody from me. That is what I would have done for my children if I really believed the other parent was unsuitable. At the very least, I would have stayed close by with joint custody so that I could make sure my children were ok. I would have recorded the alleged harassment and presented it in court.

Doesn't it make you wonder why, with all his money he didn't take that route? Maybe because there was no harassment on my part.

But no - he voluntarily gave me custoday and moved.

 

[haiku]

It doesn't matter WHY he moved. If the man had loved his children - he would have taken steps to get custody from me. That is what I would have done for my children if I really believed the other parent was unsuitable. At the very least, I would have stayed close by with joint custody so that I could make sure my children were ok. I would have recorded the alleged harassment and presented it in court.

Doesn't it make you wonder why, with all his money he didn't take that route? Maybe because there was no harassment on my part.

But no - he voluntarily gave me custoday and moved.

Yep we know, you are an awesome mom, woman and human being.

coming over and over to this website for validation of your greatness.


whatever****************************..

 

[flygrl]

Actually, I come for legal advice like everyone else.

You apparently only come here to tear people down and make yourself feel better. I have no need to do that to other people. I am confident of myself and my parenting.

 

[tigger22472]

I am confident of myself and my parenting.

I am glad that someone is. I gave you the legal answer but to be honest, I do hope he sues you for custody and wins. This seems to be yet one more tactic from you to alienate him and the children and to punish him even more for moving on with his life and not with you. Don't bother responding to me cuz I'm done with this thread... the legal answer was given.

 

[Halls]

You will be likely allowed to move no problem. Most move away laws are about parents that live near each other that if there was a move in would greatly prevent the NCP from getting to see their child. Since dad lives so many states already away it would be highly unlikely a judge would rule in his favor if it was to go to court.

 

[LdiJ]

flygrl I honest think that you would be better off not asking for advice on this forum any longer.

Go somewhere else or rely on your attorney's advice. I have never believed that you have gotten a fair shake here....or that you even get valid legal adivce here. (sorry Tig and others...I think that you all fell into a "trap" set by another poster)

You need objective advice and I don't believe its possible for you to get objective advice here.

 

[haiku]

flygrl I honest think that you would be better off not asking for advice on this forum any longer.

Go somewhere else or rely on your attorney's advice. I have never believed that you have gotten a fair shake here....or that you even get valid legal adivce here. (sorry Tig and others...I think that you all fell into a "trap" set by another poster)

You need objective advice and I don't believe its possible for you to get objective advice here.

honestly LDiJ, there quite a few 'law advice" sites on the web.

If "Flygrl" were legitmate, do you really think she would continue to return HERE over and over and over?

 

[tigger22472]

flygrl I honest think that you would be better off not asking for advice on this forum any longer.

Go somewhere else or rely on your attorney's advice. I have never believed that you have gotten a fair shake here....or that you even get valid legal adivce here. (sorry Tig and others...I think that you all fell into a "trap" set by another poster)

You need objective advice and I don't believe its possible for you to get objective advice here.

WAIT....What part of my LEGAL advice was incorrect??? I TOLD her that he has the right to contest and under what reasons and what "COULD" happen as far as her having to possibly pay the difference in transportation. I also told her that it was by no means GUARANTEED that if he contested he would win .... there's no GUARANTEE that he would lose either, but we ALL know that here on this forum, we cannot predict what a judge will or will not do. I also told her that her seemingly instability of moving COULD work against her. So again I ask YOU LDIJ what part of that LEGAL advice was incorrect?

Do I hope that her ex files against her? Yeah I do and just for the record... I don't FALL into the traps set by other posters, not to mention why say 'other poster'? EVERYONE here knows you are talking about rmet!!! I disagree with her just as quickly as I disagree with you so DO NOT GO THERE!!! However what I HOPE happens, what does happen and what LEGAL CAN happen do not always mesh and I am VERY careful to make it clear what the difference is so DO NOT come here and indicate that this poster was not given the correct legal advice... at least NOT by me!!!

 

[stealth2]

You go, girl! LDi - you really blew it on this one. Sorry.