I too am going through the same thing, and would like to know some of the same answers, I have heard that, even if you delete, there is still ways of getting these e-mails and instant messages, i have been told also that you can hire someone to clean out your computer, but if they already have the info it wont do you any good, im afraid that mine has already been hacked into, but im not sure. I wish there was a way of telling if they had, for both of our sakes. good luck to you, I know where your at!!! I have also posted a question too, welcome to read it!! sincerely lils mom