can i be charged with slander?

[[email protected]]

I fooled around with a guy recently and things turned very physical and we had sex. He took advantage of me, and I was advised by a counselor to charge him with statutory rape b/c of how he used me, but I didn't b/c I consented to it, and he is only a year older than me. (i'm 17, he is 18) I have been very unhapy with my decision to sleep with him, and have told him so. I have also spoken with a few close friends about the situation, and old him about him taking advantage and the things he has said to me since. We recently had an argument about what is going on between the two of us and about the fact that I don't want a physical relationship with him anymore. I also asked him why he took advantage of me, and he denied that he did. He now thinks taht I am ruining his reputation by telling people what happened and that I don't like him as a person anymore and that I think he used me, and threatened me with a defamation of charater lawsuit if I continue to talkabout the situation with anyone and he finds out about it. Does he have a case?
signed..annoyed and sick of him
P.S. Please e-mail responses to me if at all possible. thank-you

 

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<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Arial, Helvetica, Verdana">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by [email protected]:
I fooled around with a guy recently and things turned very physical and we had sex. He took advantage of me, and I was advised by a counselor to charge him with statutory rape b/c of how he used me, but I didn't b/c I consented to it, and he is only a year older than me. (i'm 17, he is 18) I have been very unhapy with my decision to sleep with him, and have told him so. I have also spoken with a few close friends about the situation, and old him about him taking advantage and the things he has said to me since. We recently had an argument about what is going on between the two of us and about the fact that I don't want a physical relationship with him anymore. I also asked him why he took advantage of me, and he denied that he did. He now thinks taht I am ruining his reputation by telling people what happened and that I don't like him as a person anymore and that I think he used me, and threatened me with a defamation of charater lawsuit if I continue to talkabout the situation with anyone and he finds out about it. Does he have a case?
signed..annoyed and sick of him
P.S. Please e-mail responses to me if at all possible. thank-you<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

My response:

Do you see that writing in RED, above? Without a State name, we can't even attempt to assist you, if we're even able to assist you at all. Laws are different everywhere.

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[tkern1230]

Why is it that when minor females spread their legs and don't like the way they are treated afterward, it is always the male's fault???

Unfortunately for the guy, he can be charged with statutory rape because you're a minor. He didn't take advantage of you - it's not like he was 35 and you are 17. YOU made a conscious decision to have sex with him. You're almost insinuating that he forced you to do it - that's appauling! Do you know that you could send him to prison for longer than what he will go there for already having committed the statutory rape itself?

Take some advice from an older female - keep your legs closed for goddsake!!

By the way - where is your mother when you're having sex with boys?

 

[kaelis6]

Statuatory rape is a serious charge, not a concept to be thrown around because of a regrettable decision. Although you aren't of age, you did consent and that means a lot. He didn't take advantage of you if you said "yes." You wanted it to happen at the time, no matter how much you wish it hadn't happened today. I don't think it would go as far as slander, but you are both getting tarnished reputations. This is like the boy who cried wolf. Some rapists are never convicted because of the amount of false cases that flood the courts. Leave that serious accusation for the girls who really did get taken advantage. Stay out of his life if you're smart. Seek further help if he doesn't take "no" for an answer when you say you want to end it.

 

[Vincent Cosent]

Your decision to sleep with him

What about your parents do they even know about this? Ill bet you didnt tell them your sleeping around.
Depending on your state and assuming 18 is legally an adult for males and 17 a minor for females.
From a legal standpoint a 17 minor will not be held accountable for having sex with an adult.
It is the parents that will dictate and press charges for statutory rape or if someone reports this to police they will act on this because it is a crime and will not matter if you change your mind. And if somehow you end up pregnant and he goes to jail ????????
Be advised that by talking you could ruin his life as he could go to jail for a long time and will not be able to find employment easily with a criminal record.
The problem here is that both of you acted on your horney-mones first and now you have second thoughts.
It is your choice young lady you can keep talking and this whole thing can blow up and you will live with the after effects both emotionally and he will live with it legally.
Or you can learn quietly from this incident in your life and go on and hopefully make better choices in the future.