Can I break my lease (clarified)

[mishy-29]

Sorry, I live in California and the reason I need to get out of my lease is because my boyfriend has become unbearable. We got along perfectly before we moved in together but almost from day one that we started living together we have fought. It turns out that he has a terrible temper. We've had huge fights over the stupidist things for the entire 5 months we've been living here. He shouts and screams, throws things at me, he'll flip the furniture over, slam doors, everything. I've tried to leave when he goes into one of these rages and he physically stops me from leaving. He's never hit me and I refuse to stay around until he does. I think he was always really like this but he waited until we were locked into this lease together and knew I couldn't leave. The manager of the complex had a run in with him where he went into one of these rages and when I told her what I was going through she said she might be able to help me, but of course now there's a new manager. His full-blown rages have decreased but there still haven't been 2 days in a row without him getting pissed off at me or starting a fight. He wouldn't be able to pay my part of the rent ($1,110/mo) but he might be able to rent out the small second bedroom. I don't know what he'll do if I leave. He may just break the lease and then I'd be in real trouble. Is there anything I can do? Help, please!! Thanks.

 

[HomeGuru]

Go to court and file a restraining order against him. And then file to ask the court to rule that either he is off the lease or you are. You need to end this now. And don't be mishy-washy about it.

 

[Jack Mevorach, Esq.]

I agree completely. Act now, without delay!

 

[David J. Miller]

I knew before I even read Homeguru's response that he was going to somehow work in her name "mishy" into his response.
Either great minds think a like or I'm getting to know HG very well. In either case, always humorous reading.

 

[HomeGuru]

Ah you are getting to know the Great one all too well.
I was going to say some other things but did not have the time at the time ie. call the Police Commishynor, tell boyfriend to move back to mishygan and mention my old favorite Disney song sung by my Japanese buddy at the Sushi/Karaoke bar...when yu mishy upon ah sta, makey no difrance hu yu ah....

 

[David J. Miller]

Risten here mishy. Concuntrate! Focus pawa! Do dis wit yur hands... Rax on...Rax off

When you rearn dese tings, den boyfriend will not boddah you.

Very funny HG. I almost made a meshy in my pants.

 

[mishy-29]

You people are really rude. You're snide and insulting remarks were really helpful. Thanks so much.

 

[HomeGuru]

Did you not get useful and free advice?

 

[mishy-29]

No, I did not. What he has done thus far is not grounds for filing a restraining order. I would think a lawyer would know that. I can't believe a site that is supposedly designed to help people with their serious legal issues is this infantile. I will look elsewhere for assistance.

[Edited by mishy-29 on 12-02-2000 at 04:30 AM]

 

[HomeGuru]

You are too funny girl. We attorneys give you free and factual advice at your desperate request then you not only refuse to accept our advice but say that it was not helpful.
Ok then, after he kills you, maybe it is then the time to file a restaining order? Read your post again. The things that you have stated he does/did to you are indeed grounds for a restaining order.
Wake up and smell reality.

You are free to look elsewhere for assistance and should. I hate helping people who have no common sense, can not accept the truth and are too simple minded and ignorant to know that just, just maybe, given the benefit of the doubt, these two attorneys that have responded know the law. Heck even if we throw our law degrees and years of practice away, our common sense would prevail.
You are so simple you make an amoeba look complicated.

Please, for you own good, call the police.

Signed,
HomeGuru

 

[PAMELASUE]

I found their advice to be both accurate and humorous. Maybe you are too upset about your situation to see this. You do not have to wait for him to assault you to get a restraining order. Homeguru is a pisser. Lighten up and take a joke. They are doing us a favor. They are just trying to have fun along the way.

 

[aubrey]

CHILL OUT!

I agree completely with PAMELASUE! What could be better than free advice along with a humorous twist? In your original message mishy, you did sound like a desperate gal looking for someone to tell you to remove yourself from the situation you have "awoken" and found yourself in.

You included not only the facts of your case, but also several emotional details that were not necessary in order to obtain legal advice. You were looking to vent to someone the details of what you are going through and also seeking reassurance that you should indeed leave.

Although I am not a lawyer, I am a grad student in counselor education and I could read you like a book. You wanted someone to tell you what to do in both a legal sense and an emotional sense. Don't criticize those who volunteer their time to try to help you out with some insightful advice. Whether you wanted it or not, you have absolutely no right to demean them in any way. They were right on in telling you to remove yourself from, in the way you described it, a catastrophe waiting to happen....and if you stay, it will.

Aubrey

 

[mishy-29]

Despite what you people have assumed about me, I am a very intelligent woman. I did not need anyone to tell me that my situation is a difficult or dangerous one. If I unwittingly included the emotional aspects of my situation in my clarification I apologize. I was merely trying to relay the situation as it has presented itself to me. All I was looking for on this site was a little info on breaking a lease in California (does it go on your credit report, can the company sue, does it affect future lease agreements, etc...). I am in the process of removing myself from this unfortunate and potentially dangerous situation and merely needed a little guidance. I don't think that's so unreasonable, do you?

 

[PAMELASUE]

youre request for info was not unreasonable. You got the info you were looking for. Now lighten up "oh intelligent one" and learn to take a joke. I thought everything the homeguru and his friend said was hysterical. So did the room full of people i showed it to.

 

[Peachy]

Like PamelaSue said, lighten up already.