can I do this now?

[ccgush]

Can I divorce my mother and become an emancipated minor at the age of 13 in the state of Maine?

 

[Grandma B]

Why, does she want to take your computer privileges away from you?

 

[ccgush]

look at it this way...

No, I still have my computer privleges, but i am definatly interested in persuing life without her.. a lot has happend and between losing my dad and her always working, I just want out... so, I'll ask again, can I divorce my mom and become an emancipated minor at 13 in the state of maine?

 

[Grandma B]

Check it out yourself since you're so independent

At the top of the page there is a link for state resources. Check out Maine's laws on emancipation of minors.

I'm sorry for the loss of your father, but do you think that maybe, just maybe, your mother is working to support you?

 

[ccgush]

I appreciate your sympathy, but trust me, I don't think she needs to work from 7:00 am to 9:00pm do you? She still has my dad's military check every month and she works 4 herself, so trust me, the money isn't the prblem, it never has been. I'm 13 and don't need this, I just want an easy life, but I haven't had one for almost a year. Not to mention my 9 year old brother who does nothing but sit in his room and watch t.v. and my 15 year old sister who puts on an act that she doesn't care... I just hate it, and this is the only way I can find that will give me a way out.

 

[KaliMaya]

Im sorry to hear that your having this problem and I dont blame you for wanting out. Im sorry that you have to hear things like that though from grandma B .. she seems to enjoy submitting harsh replies when she doesnt know the entire story and I seriously think she needs to think twice before she replies to things she knows nothing about, esecially since she doesnt even offer any advice whatsoever.

 

[Ambr]

just out of curiousity....

how will you support yourself if you were to leave your mom's house? do you have a job? do you have a place to live? how will you eat? what about clothes? electric, gas, water...just to name a few. what are your plans?

http://janus.state.me.us/legis/statutes/15/title15sec3506-a.html

your answer is 16

 

[ccgush]

actually...

I'm actually living with another family, a friend of my mother's, now and for the rest of the summer. I've talked to them about this situation, and they were actually the ones to bring this idea up to me about the whole becoming an emancipated minor, divorcing my mom and so on. They've offered everything for me, a place to live, sleep, if I decide that I want to do this, but I don't know where to begin. Thank you all very much for your replies and comments... I do appreciate it...

 

[Ambr]

and all of that, absolutely free of charge with no strings attached?

 

[Grandma B]

Im sorry to hear that your having this problem and I dont blame you for wanting out. Im sorry that you have to hear things like that though from grandma B .. she seems to enjoy submitting harsh replies when she doesnt know the entire story and I seriously think she needs to think twice before she replies to things she knows nothing about, esecially since she doesnt even offer any advice whatsoever.

Kali, Sorry you feel that way. I do have a lot of sympathy for both you and your situation and for this child who is missing a normal family life. I did not reply harshly to them and I did direct them to a place where they could find what they were looking for.

 

[dorenephilpot]

CCGUSH,

Hang in there. You won't be a teen forever.

You'll eventually be free to do your own thing and live your own life.

Luckily, your teen years will fly by -- and you're not alone. A whole lot of us weren't nuts about our home lives during those years, but we survived, and you will, too.

 

[ccgush]

Once again, I do appreciate all of your comments, but I just want out. Maybe this is just a normal tenn-age life after losing a parent, but it's not mentally safe. I can't expect any one to undersyand how I am feeling, but I do know that I want to get myself out of this situation.

The family that has opened their hearts to me wants to help, they both want me to do whatever I think is best, and they want me there. Life just sucks at 13, and the only problem is that I have 4 more years until I can go to college. And I wish they'd fly by, but already I'm sick of the drugs and alcohol, the *peer presure* ... how did anyone of u ever survive??

 

[Ambr]

how can you be 13 years old and be worrying about your mental safety? you are talking in phrases well beyond your years and to be honest, they sound coached.

you sound as if someone is feeding your lines and handing you the phrases you need to get out. either that - or an adult attempting to "fuel" the fires and start a debate.

and 13 doesn't last forever. and regardless of whose house you are living in - there are always going to be rules and guidelines to follow. you have to go through it, it's just life. you mention losing a parent, i am assuming your dad? not to sound insensitive or anything - but your mom also lost a husband. maybe she is taking it hard. maybe she is worried about taking care of you and affording things for you - maybe she is working so she doesn't have to think. she has to be scared and suffering right along with you.

do you honestly think it would be fair for her to lose a daughter as well?

 

[Ambr]

here is a suggestion...

TURN OFF THE COMPUTER and walk into the room with your mom. TALK TO HER!!!!!