The state is NC .We were married2-14-07 .During 08 he was having sex with this woman he even has her name tattoo on his arm n she has one to of his name.He abandoned me n our kids completely 1-25-09.He would not give me no money .The home we were renting I lost car n furniture I was drawing unemployment. I took out child support but after 2yrs could not locate he n the woman moved to anothe state but he back in nc it's been seven years since we lived together .he has a Facebook page with their name on it like they r married but we r not divorce can i get alimony and can I sue her