Can I throw my son out

[Diana]

I have an 18-year-old son who does not work or go to school. He refuses to leave. Can I call the police to evict him?

 

[Tracey]

Certainly. File trespassing charges and have him arrested. He'll never talk to you again and might have a criminal record, but you'll have the house back.

Alternatively, you could try mediation to work something out. Is he a lazy freeloader or is it possible he is depressed? Treatment and Prozac might help him summon the energy to get a job.

If he can work but won't, you can evict him. This is a civil remedy that doesn't give him a record. Buy an "eviction kit." They have all the forms you need for your state and instructions on filling them out. Check with business supply stores and the local process server/legal messenger company.


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This is not legal advice and you are not my client. Double check everything with your own attorney and your state's laws.

 

[Thunder]

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Diana:
I have an 18-year-old son who does not work or go to school. He refuses to leave. Can I call the police to evict him?<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>
I am not an attorney, just a father, but I did work with the legal system several years. In my experience I have not seen one time that the legal system helped in any way to correct a family problem. No not one. I made up my mind years ago that I would never alienate my kids no matter how bad things got. It was rough for a while. I yelled and screamed at my son to do many things and it never had an effect. So I tried a different approach.

I did it all. I cleaned his room, did his work, and treated him like he was a guest. I never made snide remarks or used sarcasm. He was my son. It started to work. At first he would come out on hot days and try to finish the lawn I was mowing. I told him it was to hot and hard for him to be out there. I did ask him to get me a drink. We showered him with service and talked to him like he was very important. We refused to argue with him, and just stated that he may be right.

It worked after a while. He started doing the work before I got home. He started to do things for his mother, and he began to act like a human. It took months.

He called last week and ask us to come and look at a home he was considering. He wanted our opinion. Two days ago he called with the news that he had purchased his first home, and thanked us for the help. Not all stories will turn out this well. I know some kids are just rotten, but he is your kid and you are never rid of them. If he is rotten you had something to do with it in some way. Now you can try to correct it.