Can my child's school refuse to allow me to see, talk to, and check out my child?

[Jlg39]

Florida. I have a parenting plan that says my days are every Wednesday, every other weekend and some holidays. The school has a copy of this. I have a hearing that I have a copy of, that's very recent, where the judge states my parenting plan is in full force and effect. DCF is involved, they are not taking my rights away and they say I have every right to see my daughter. When I go to the school to get my daughter or talk to her, instead of calling her up to the office (as is their policy) they go ask the 11 year old child if she WANTS to go, the child says no, so I'm told no I can't have my child. This has caused countless missed doctors appointments. What can I do?

 

[Just Blue]

Florida. I have a parenting plan that says my days are every Wednesday, every other weekend and some holidays. The school has a copy of this. I have a hearing that I have a copy of, that's very recent, where the judge states my parenting plan is in full force and effect. DCF is involved, they are not taking my rights away and they say I have every right to see my daughter. When I go to the school to get my daughter or talk to her, instead of calling her up to the office (as is their policy) they go ask the 11 year old child if she WANTS to go, the child says no, so I'm told no I can't have my child. This has caused countless missed doctors appointments. What can I do?

You kind of slithered around the DCF case. What is that about?

 

[ecmst12]

Stop trying to interrupt her school day, perhaps? If you're the NCP, you shouldn't be scheduling her for doctor's appointments anyway.

 

[Taxing Matters]

Florida. I have a parenting plan that says my days are every Wednesday, every other weekend and some holidays. The school has a copy of this. I have a hearing that I have a copy of, that's very recent, where the judge states my parenting plan is in full force and effect. DCF is involved, they are not taking my rights away and they say I have every right to see my daughter. When I go to the school to get my daughter or talk to her, instead of calling her up to the office (as is their policy) they go ask the 11 year old child if she WANTS to go, the child says no, so I'm told no I can't have my child. This has caused countless missed doctors appointments. What can I do?

Is this a private or public school? If you only have the child during the week on Wednesdays, are all these medical appointments on Wednesdays? What do the court orders say about medical appointments? Does the other parent know and consent to these medical appointments? If so, what does the other parent say about this issue? What is the status of the DCF involvement? Is there an open investigation concerning you? There is a lot missing from your post. I suspect that the other parent is not fully on board with you picking up the child from school and if that’s correct then you have a problem.

 

[LdiJ]

Florida. I have a parenting plan that says my days are every Wednesday, every other weekend and some holidays. The school has a copy of this. I have a hearing that I have a copy of, that's very recent, where the judge states my parenting plan is in full force and effect. DCF is involved, they are not taking my rights away and they say I have every right to see my daughter. When I go to the school to get my daughter or talk to her, instead of calling her up to the office (as is their policy) they go ask the 11 year old child if she WANTS to go, the child says no, so I'm told no I can't have my child. This has caused countless missed doctors appointments. What can I do?

I also want to know why you are scheduling doctor's appointments for her?

 

[stealth2]

I also want to know why you are scheduling doctor's appointments for her?

Apparently during the school day...

 

[HRZ]

MY lay view...excusing a child from school for doctors appointments is always a bit of a disruption to classroom and child .....that said...whatever the school policy is should be uniformly applied .

Makes no sense that child is asked.

Something else is going on? SChools tend not to want to be in middle of custody issues.

 

[LdiJ]

MY lay view...excusing a child from school for doctors appointments is always a bit of a disruption to classroom and child .....that said...whatever the school policy is should be uniformly applied .

Makes no sense that child is asked.

Something else is going on? SChools tend not to want to be in middle of custody issues.

Obviously something else is going on. OP has simply not shared that with us, which makes it very difficult to give good advice.

 

[Ohiogal]

Quite frankly, unless there is a restraining order, the school is in the wrong to prevent a parent from getting the child.

 

[Zigner]

Quite frankly, unless there is a restraining order, the school is in the wrong to prevent a parent from getting the child.

We're not getting the whole/real story here. This one is hinky from the start

 

[Ohiogal]

We're not getting the whole/real story here. This one is hinky from the start

My comment however is still correct. Unless there is a restraining order -- which there could be -- the school cannot interfere.

 

[Zigner]

My comment however is still correct. Unless there is a restraining order -- which there could be -- the school cannot interfere.

Fair enough.

 

[Zigner]

A bit of a hijack and totally out of curiosity...

If mom happened to work at the school, perhaps as the principal, or the child's teacher, could mom refuse this request?

 

[LdiJ]

A bit of a hijack and totally out of curiosity...

If mom happened to work at the school, perhaps as the principal, or the child's teacher, could mom refuse this request?

She probably could as long as it did not violate the parenting schedule.

 

[Zigner]

She probably could as long as it did not violate the parenting schedule.

(This is just a thought exercise)

However, the school cannot stop it, so would she be at risk of violating the law by not allowing the parent to pick up the child?