can she give an illegimate child her x's last name?

[mrschuck]

I'm sorry I even came to this site! Thanks to those with understanding the rest of you can......


[Edited by mrschuck on 05-10-2001 at 12:52 AM]

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

My response:

You said:

"This child is not full blooded white . . . "

I'm sorry. We don't assist members of the KKK on these boards.

IAAL

 

[challye]

Apology

I'm quite sure you're jumping the gun on this thing. I believe she was more concerned about the illegal alien factor. Doesn't she have enough to worry about without your unkind remarks? Doubt you'll come close to passing the bar.

[Edited by challye on 05-10-2001 at 09:37 AM]

 

[mrschuck]

no I'm not a KKK member nor am I predujuce but I do feel it is wrong for her to give the baby her x husbands name!

 

[LegalBeagle]

no I'm not a KKK member nor am I predujuce but I do feel it is wrong for her to give the baby her x husbands name!

So what has the color of the child got to do with any of this?

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

My response:

That's what I wanted to say, LB. But, then I said, "To hell with this post".

IAAL

 

[challye]

Like that's really going to bother anyone.

[Edited by challye on 05-10-2001 at 09:40 AM]

 

[LegalBeagle]

Boy, I'll tell you -- men just never seem to grow up.

So you are saying that color of a baby is an issue for you too? Our poster mentioned the color of the child. Despite the fact that it should not be an issue or even a relevant point in the question. I personally will not help or even give the time of day to a racist. You obviously have lower standards and morals, so feel free to help this person.

 

[maryp]

Hey! - I'd be the first to agree that the choice of words used by the original contributor was unfortunate, but I really feel that you are being a little harsh here.

I know that the colour of the child should not be relevant in this matter, but it was her way of conveying that because of it, they know the baby isn't her boyfriend's. I'm positive that there was no racist intent.

That aside, would I be right in assuming that as there hasn't been a divorce, the mother is likely to have still retained her married name and is therefore free to pass this on to her baby?

 

[challye]

Thank you, maryp. You seem to have understood what I was trying to say. Obviously I wasn't doing a very good job. These guys need to lighten up. I'm 1/2 Indian and 1/2 African-American -- the color of the child matters naught to me. LB makes the sounds of the closet racists I've come across in my life -- he needs to stop protesting so much and relax -- enjoy -- help someone if he can.

 

[maryp]

The colour of the child isn't legally relevant in this matter - anymore than calling someone a "closet racist" merely because they happen to raise it as an issue!

This does seem to have gotten a little out of hand and perhaps if the original question were rewritten, it might get an answer???????

 

[challye]

Excuse me, maryp, me dear -- but, it was okay with you for IAAL to insult mrschuck by saying she was a member of the KKK (hard to even type that) and okay with you for LB to call mrschuck a racist? Why no reprimand for them? She was just asking a question. You'd think she'd get some help.

 

[mary ray]

I have wade into this mess, I agree with IAAL and LB. Mrschuck your choice of words were poor at best and insensitive. One should read their post's and think before submitting them. And besides, why is it that you(Mrschuck)have the temerity to ask a question such as you did, when as you said your "significant other" (boy isn't this a PC world in which we live. Do you mean your lover with whom you were having an adulterous affair with?) is silent? Just curious as to the thought process that one has in these situational ethical dilemas that one encounters. And what difference does it make if her children came into the delivery room? And still further, what difference does it make if the alleged father's is an illegal alien?

 

[maryp]

I never said it was OK for ANYONE to dish out the insults and I think if you read my earlier post you'll see that I said that they were being a "little harsh" and I defended mrschuck as I truthfully believed she was not being intentionally racist.

I tried to help, I rewrote the question. There was a response, however, for whatever reason the writer has chosen to delete it

 

[challye]

MrsChuck-
Don't know if you're still interested or not, but I spoke with a REAL attorney about your situation. He informed me that you can name your kid anything you want. It evidently does not matter whether your husband is the child's father or not. She's not going for support, is she? That was his only concern.
Anyway, I hope this helps you and sorry again for the all the runaround and snide remarks you got from these guys. Good luck to you!