What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? IL
I'm the CP. ex-wife does not have a car and moved 40 miles away. Visitation is every other weekend. Child support is $75 a month. Gasoline and tolls for the pick up and delivery costs me approxumately $80 a month. This obviously doesnt even consider the wear and tear on my vehicle, plus the 12 hours of travel time (heavy traffic where she lives). My expenses on the child alone is about $1500 a month due to daycare, asthma medications, insurance and special diet and supplies due to his allergies. The childsupport only covers my son's deductable for his asthma meds so now I'm actualy paying for her visitations as well. My time, my car my gas. Judge argues how is she supposed to get visitations since she does not have a car? I undestand that clearly and thats why I have been doing it so my son can see her mother but is that really my problem? I have been doing this for 2 years and have been accommodating and patient but at what point do I say enough is enough. It is her visitation not mine. My responsibilities should be to make sure our son available during visititations and keep those schedule and pick ups. It has gotten to a point that this visitation has become a financial burden to me and the kids.
Before I get flamed and told i should think of the chid and do this for my kid, I have been and I continue to do so because of him but it's simply not fair. I know it may just look like $80 in gas but fator in my time and wear and tear on my car. I drive 10 miles to and from work a day, during visitation every other weekends, its 80 miles to drop off and back and another 80 miles to pick up and back.
Is it right that I still be responsible for her visitations when she makes absolutely no effort making these visitations happen? She wont even pay for 50% of the cost of transportation.
I'm the CP. ex-wife does not have a car and moved 40 miles away. Visitation is every other weekend. Child support is $75 a month. Gasoline and tolls for the pick up and delivery costs me approxumately $80 a month. This obviously doesnt even consider the wear and tear on my vehicle, plus the 12 hours of travel time (heavy traffic where she lives). My expenses on the child alone is about $1500 a month due to daycare, asthma medications, insurance and special diet and supplies due to his allergies. The childsupport only covers my son's deductable for his asthma meds so now I'm actualy paying for her visitations as well. My time, my car my gas. Judge argues how is she supposed to get visitations since she does not have a car? I undestand that clearly and thats why I have been doing it so my son can see her mother but is that really my problem? I have been doing this for 2 years and have been accommodating and patient but at what point do I say enough is enough. It is her visitation not mine. My responsibilities should be to make sure our son available during visititations and keep those schedule and pick ups. It has gotten to a point that this visitation has become a financial burden to me and the kids.
Before I get flamed and told i should think of the chid and do this for my kid, I have been and I continue to do so because of him but it's simply not fair. I know it may just look like $80 in gas but fator in my time and wear and tear on my car. I drive 10 miles to and from work a day, during visitation every other weekends, its 80 miles to drop off and back and another 80 miles to pick up and back.
Is it right that I still be responsible for her visitations when she makes absolutely no effort making these visitations happen? She wont even pay for 50% of the cost of transportation.
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