Can you get charged with Domestic Violence if you never hit or threaten anyone?

[zach]

I was dating a girl for 4 months and she did really wierd things that were driving me crazy, she lied all the time, and would never let me have space in our relationship.. when I tried to leave the relationship, she threatened me with suing me for the rent (since I was kindof on the lease) or would just blackmail me in some other way. Finally, I got sick of the abuse, and stressed out and broke a few things in our house, she frieked out and called the cops, or she got mad at me because I was trying to break up with her and called the cops.. anyways, I'm now being charged with domestic violence and 3rd degree malicious mischief.
This is really bad, because I did what I did to get out of an abusive relationship with this girl. She's extremely verbally abusive, but at the same time, puts herself in the victim role constantly, so she always looks like the victim, and not the actual cause of any commotion. Therefore, when I go to court, she will probably insist that she was scared and that I am "crazy" or something else, even though it is her that has some wierd emotional problems. Can I ask the court to do a psycological evaluation on her? I've already had one, and my counselor agrees with me that the girl I was with has some problems that cause other people she is with to "go nuts" sometimes. This is wierd.. I've never had to deal with anything like this before, I kinda know why I frieked out, but it's hard to explain, but she said I didn't hit her or threaten her, but by my actions, she was afraid I would hurt her or myself. ??????? It makes no sense. Please help!

 

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<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by zach:
I was dating a girl for 4 months and she did really wierd things that were driving me crazy, she lied all the time, and would never let me have space in our relationship.. when I tried to leave the relationship, she threatened me with suing me for the rent (since I was kindof on the lease) or would just blackmail me in some other way. Finally, I got sick of the abuse, and stressed out and broke a few things in our house, she frieked out and called the cops, or she got mad at me because I was trying to break up with her and called the cops.. anyways, I'm now being charged with domestic violence and 3rd degree malicious mischief.
This is really bad, because I did what I did to get out of an abusive relationship with this girl. She's extremely verbally abusive, but at the same time, puts herself in the victim role constantly, so she always looks like the victim, and not the actual cause of any commotion. Therefore, when I go to court, she will probably insist that she was scared and that I am "crazy" or something else, even though it is her that has some wierd emotional problems. Can I ask the court to do a psycological evaluation on her? I've already had one, and my counselor agrees with me that the girl I was with has some problems that cause other people she is with to "go nuts" sometimes. This is wierd.. I've never had to deal with anything like this before, I kinda know why I frieked out, but it's hard to explain, but she said I didn't hit her or threaten her, but by my actions, she was afraid I would hurt her or myself. ??????? It makes no sense. Please help! <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

My response:

Ever heard of James Brown, the former Football player. You will recall, that in the past year he's been in the News. Do you remember why? That's right, "Domestic Violence." All he did was put his fist through his own car's window (powerful stuff), and because his wife was scared, and called 911, he was arrested, and convicted. His wife, though she recants her story today that he was frightening her, said that he never did, in fact, "touch" her; only that she was frightened that he might. But, the 911 tapes tell a different tale.

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Zach- I'm sorry you're in this position- will it matter for you to know you've got company?
Psycho ex- tried the same stuff, and once the allegations were recanted-NOTHING happened to her. The Judge stated that it's better for law enforcement to react and find out later that she lied, which doesn't do you much good. There must be a school somewhere to teach them how to do this. My ex- graduated with honors, but I was lucky, as only she was put into hand-cuffs.
Good Luck,

 

[Zach]

Thank you for the replys, although, to be honest, no very encouraging.. Anyways, the fact is, she scares me.. and still scares me. We both have restraining orders on each other, but I'm still afraid to call any friends that she might know.. She's really slanderous, and I'm sure she's doing anything she can to try to make me look like the bad guy to cover up her own mental illness. This really sucks.. So, should I just plead guilty and see what the judge says.. it's my first offense, I never hit her or threatened her, I basically just had a really crappy day. Are they really going to convict me for THAT!?!? I guess I'll see what my lawyer says.. I hope to God she doesn't have recipts for anything I broke.. I'm pretty sure she doesn't.