I am the caregiver for my grandmother, with alzheimer's. She lives in our home and I have a durable power of attorney for financial and medical issues. I only work part time and want to know if I am able legally to use some of her assests to pay myself for caregiving? If she were in a home it would be much more expensive, but I would be working more. I also am resposable for my husband, who is disabled and my two young children. Is there any tax breaks I can use or any other way to make ends meet with out breaking the law?