ken1001 said:
we live in georgia we have legal and physical custody of our grandchildren ,the mother receives ss disability.about 1 and 1/2 years ago we found out she was collecting her money and the childrens and not paying child support .we went to ss had us as the payee her new husband makes good money.even though she frauded the govt.they do nothing weve sent documentation .weve now made 5 trips to ss cause the local offices phone is off the hook[was governnment worker once]we are trying to collect the back money she owes fromm ss but all we get is the run around even wrote our congressman no wonder ss is a mess .any ideas
The Social Security office is not your resource for child support nor are they responsible to you in anyway as you do not have a claim with them. The mother is their client and they will deal with her without your knowledge and consent. Your congress-person is not your resource, either, as you have no open claim with Social Security and members of Congress do not get involved in child support issues that have not gone through the court system or DFACS.
If you believe you are entitled to child support, which largely depends on whether you adopted your grandchildren or not, you should seek child support through the courts. If you have a court order for child support and the mother has not paid her share (there is a father, too), then file a motion seeking to have the mother found in contempt of the court order.
I don't want to hear one word of how great the father is; you wouldn't have custody if he was in the least bit "great".
You have the mother's children and that should be enough for you. I suggest you focus on being a parent instead of seeking to harm the mother. Those children will love their mother and will seek to have a relationship with her and it would be in your best interest to do nothing that in the future the children can interpret as your selfish intent to harm their relationship with their mother. Teenagers and young adults often blame grandparents such as yourself for their parent(s)' shortcomings. You are setting yourself up for much heartache in the future.
Let go of this SS issue. It truly is none of your business.
EC