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Recently my father passed away.He and mom hadn't pre purchased a burial plot but dad had wanted to be put to rest in a cemetery near their home beside a smaall country church.After his death mom contacted the church and arranged to meet with a member of their board to discuss the purchase.
The gentleman she spoke with give her a number for a lady and mom set up a meeting with her at the cemetery to pay for the plot and talk about the particulars.At that time mom made it clear that when she received dads burial insurance she would be puttuing down a double marker and paying for her plot next to dad as well.Mom paid for dad's spot and told the lady she would be in touch when the insurance came and she had bought the marker.
A few days ago we contacted the lady to make arrangements for someone to meet the people who would be putting down the marker and to pay for mom's plot as well.The lady said that after discussing the arrangement with the churche's directors that they had informed her that,not only could we not put the double marker down,that there was no gurantee that mom could be buried beside dad at all.Seems that church policy is that grave sites can only be reserved for church members.
This has really upset my mom.Not only has she purchased the marker but the thought that herself and the man she spent over forty years with can't rest side by side is almost too much to bear.
We have a meeting with the directors Tuesday night to discuss this matterhowever all inications are that they have no intention of honoring the verbal agreement that my mom and the lady they sent as their representetive had earlier reached.
I really hate to threaten a church with legal action but,if they had made their policy clear and had not agreed to my mom's terms we would have laid dad to rest else where.
My question is,can the church renege on the terms originally set forth by verbal agreement between my mother and the lady who took her money.My mom paid these folks in good faith and now they are changing the rules after the transaction.It would be nice to go to that meeting Tuesday and know that we have a legal leg to stand on.
If anyone can please help.We are desperate
The gentleman she spoke with give her a number for a lady and mom set up a meeting with her at the cemetery to pay for the plot and talk about the particulars.At that time mom made it clear that when she received dads burial insurance she would be puttuing down a double marker and paying for her plot next to dad as well.Mom paid for dad's spot and told the lady she would be in touch when the insurance came and she had bought the marker.
A few days ago we contacted the lady to make arrangements for someone to meet the people who would be putting down the marker and to pay for mom's plot as well.The lady said that after discussing the arrangement with the churche's directors that they had informed her that,not only could we not put the double marker down,that there was no gurantee that mom could be buried beside dad at all.Seems that church policy is that grave sites can only be reserved for church members.
This has really upset my mom.Not only has she purchased the marker but the thought that herself and the man she spent over forty years with can't rest side by side is almost too much to bear.
We have a meeting with the directors Tuesday night to discuss this matterhowever all inications are that they have no intention of honoring the verbal agreement that my mom and the lady they sent as their representetive had earlier reached.
I really hate to threaten a church with legal action but,if they had made their policy clear and had not agreed to my mom's terms we would have laid dad to rest else where.
My question is,can the church renege on the terms originally set forth by verbal agreement between my mother and the lady who took her money.My mom paid these folks in good faith and now they are changing the rules after the transaction.It would be nice to go to that meeting Tuesday and know that we have a legal leg to stand on.
If anyone can please help.We are desperate