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Hi all. My name is Jane. My oldest son is 22, he has been involved with a very nice young woman with 2 children from a previous relationship aged 7 and 5 for close to two years now, living together for about 8 months.
Upon creation of whatever custody agreements (they were never a married couple) this woman says "it was put in the paperwork" that she nor the kid's dad could leave that specific town with the kids. They share custody alternating weekly.
My question is this-If this relationship continues and my son marries this woman, is there a consideration the court may hear to possibly lift the restriction?
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The relationship seems friendly enough between all parties, and this is not anything being discussed immediately. It was lightly brought up by a family member to me in conversation, and now I can't stop thinking about it. They do struggle very much with finding quality childcare and employment in the area. The closest big city is about a 1 1/2 drive away. They face a real burden location-wise. The kiddo's dad is by all means and as far as I know a good father, he lives with his dad (grandpa), works for a very small family business making around 20 bucks an hour, and doesn't have any plans for college. Which works for him, and that is okay. However, it doesn't really work for the kid's mother, or my son, at least not to their own benefit as an individual family unit. Currently, they rent a very very small apartment for 1000.00 a month, plus all their own utilities. Things are often breaking, ac or heaters, plumbing, the literal air duct fell out of the ceiling over Christmas. As much as they claim there are laws landlords must follow- They simply do not. Myself, my son and his girlfriend, and nearly every neighbor in the 8-unit complex have complained/reported but all to no avail. Their childcare costs are insane, though dad does his share and splits the cost as he utilizes the care two weeks of every month himself while in his home, their end is roughly 162 a week. There are 3 daycares in this town, and they all have the same rates. Both mom and my son are taking college classes a few times a week, both are doing very well too with her looking to complete her associate's by next year. Both are working a minimum of 30 hours a week, as their employer likes to keep people below 40 hours as often as possible. Most employers in their immediate area do it seems. They have looked for similar entry-level jobs in the city, but both have been told a few times that they live too far "out" for the employer's comfort. Internet is shaky often dropping in and out so working from home is not really an option. They both look exhausted, she has no family in that area or really at all. We live about a 6-hour drive away ourselves.
It seems that if the mom can't progress or is hindered by the order, but is otherwise a good mother, the court may relax such restrictions in the best interest of the kids. I mean they do better when their parents do, right? Dad is a good dad, my son actually likes him and he likes my son. He has an advantage in this town, he isn't exactly fully responsible for all of his own expenses in this small town. The home he lives is in paid for by his parents, he is employed by his own family, and he has no plans to change that. The young woman said she asked him once if he would ever agree to change this agreement and he laughed and said he'd be in that town until he died- but the town has fewer and fewer opportunities for anyone, the schools are actually awful from what a quick search revealed, and most people there are under the poverty line. Is there any hope for my son and this little family to be able to move just a couple of hours to the nearest real city, where at least there are better jobs and better childcare options or is dads no enough?
Hi all. My name is Jane. My oldest son is 22, he has been involved with a very nice young woman with 2 children from a previous relationship aged 7 and 5 for close to two years now, living together for about 8 months.
Upon creation of whatever custody agreements (they were never a married couple) this woman says "it was put in the paperwork" that she nor the kid's dad could leave that specific town with the kids. They share custody alternating weekly.
My question is this-If this relationship continues and my son marries this woman, is there a consideration the court may hear to possibly lift the restriction?
*All the pertinent information*
The relationship seems friendly enough between all parties, and this is not anything being discussed immediately. It was lightly brought up by a family member to me in conversation, and now I can't stop thinking about it. They do struggle very much with finding quality childcare and employment in the area. The closest big city is about a 1 1/2 drive away. They face a real burden location-wise. The kiddo's dad is by all means and as far as I know a good father, he lives with his dad (grandpa), works for a very small family business making around 20 bucks an hour, and doesn't have any plans for college. Which works for him, and that is okay. However, it doesn't really work for the kid's mother, or my son, at least not to their own benefit as an individual family unit. Currently, they rent a very very small apartment for 1000.00 a month, plus all their own utilities. Things are often breaking, ac or heaters, plumbing, the literal air duct fell out of the ceiling over Christmas. As much as they claim there are laws landlords must follow- They simply do not. Myself, my son and his girlfriend, and nearly every neighbor in the 8-unit complex have complained/reported but all to no avail. Their childcare costs are insane, though dad does his share and splits the cost as he utilizes the care two weeks of every month himself while in his home, their end is roughly 162 a week. There are 3 daycares in this town, and they all have the same rates. Both mom and my son are taking college classes a few times a week, both are doing very well too with her looking to complete her associate's by next year. Both are working a minimum of 30 hours a week, as their employer likes to keep people below 40 hours as often as possible. Most employers in their immediate area do it seems. They have looked for similar entry-level jobs in the city, but both have been told a few times that they live too far "out" for the employer's comfort. Internet is shaky often dropping in and out so working from home is not really an option. They both look exhausted, she has no family in that area or really at all. We live about a 6-hour drive away ourselves.
It seems that if the mom can't progress or is hindered by the order, but is otherwise a good mother, the court may relax such restrictions in the best interest of the kids. I mean they do better when their parents do, right? Dad is a good dad, my son actually likes him and he likes my son. He has an advantage in this town, he isn't exactly fully responsible for all of his own expenses in this small town. The home he lives is in paid for by his parents, he is employed by his own family, and he has no plans to change that. The young woman said she asked him once if he would ever agree to change this agreement and he laughed and said he'd be in that town until he died- but the town has fewer and fewer opportunities for anyone, the schools are actually awful from what a quick search revealed, and most people there are under the poverty line. Is there any hope for my son and this little family to be able to move just a couple of hours to the nearest real city, where at least there are better jobs and better childcare options or is dads no enough?
