Changing the decree

[warpspd933]

My stepdaughters father, who is non-custodial is asking us to reimburse child support for the period that she will be visiting him next month. He has chosen a three week period out of 9 weeks offered him in the custody papers. He has made no arrangements to provide for child care while she is in his custody and has now threatened to cancel his vistation if we do not comply with his request. Furthermore, because he lives out of state, we are responsible for making sure she gets vistation atleast once per month or every other weekend. We buy the plane tickets. He has not taken advantage of the every other weekend vistation in the past. He is now threatening to start every other weekend vistation if we dont agree to his demand to reimburse child support. My step daughter has stated that this is disruptive and would prefer to visit once per month. He also has begun buying his own plane tickets to visit her here without prior approval and is expects us to pay for his ticket. Are we responsible for paying for tickets he purchases? Are his demands considered harrassment and is this grounds to modify the existing child visitation agreement (IN THE CHILDS BEST INTEREST)? This could escalate where it affects our ENTIRE family. Any advice would be appreciated. (PS: the custody origin is TEXAS...we live in Wisconsin)

 

[Ambr]

your wife lived in TEXAS and moved off with you afterwards?

the transportation should have been addressed during the relocation case. did it state that you were responsible for all transportation costs for the child? did it cover the chance that the father could visit and you would be responsible for his transportation costs? how is it worded?

flying a child back and forth every other weekend is definitely going to get expensive. i honestly can't see where a judge would order that.

how old is the child? her say so could carry a little weight.

threatening? how? phone calls? emails? letters? whatever documentation that you can get. keep these for future court hearings. also start keeping a journal and document everything. things that happen, things people say, who said it. etc. it will come in handy later.