troublesleeping
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? California
One child, age two years and three months. Father signed an AOP at the hospital. Was not involved until 21 months old. Has begun to see child between 12 to 20 hours per week. He lives about 40 minutes aways without traffic.
Recently began to threaten court (which is fine.) He says that he is going to get one or two full days during the week and weekend time as well. The thing is that he works full time about 1 1/2 hours away from his house. He does work from home somethimes but it is not an all the time thing. I am a SAHM and attend school at night. He wants our child at his house during the day so that his girlfriend can spend time with our child and not me=(. I get that she will be around our child and I really don't care at this point. I just think a child should be with his mom not some other girl. Obviously I am not ok with that. So a couple of q's?
1) Is he likely to get full days during the week even though he is working?
I fear that he will lie and say he always works from home on certain days so he can have our child during the day when in reality he wont be there and even if he is he will be working and the GF will be caring for the child. I don't mind him having a midweek visit when he is done with work.
2) Is it likely that I can have a very strong no third party interference placed into the parenting plan? Also that the father must do the pick up and drop off and no people besides blood family members can be present during pick up and drop off unless mutually agreed upon?
The father has no family in the state. The reason that I ask is because his GF is a constant problem. I call to check on our son and she starts screaming at me in the background. Calling me names and saying that my child is her's, etc. Our child comes home saying ***** hates mommy. Our childs father allows that and says that our child has two mothers and I need to get use to that. Of course I have no hard proof of this. I can only imagine how she would act during pick up and drop offs. I am just trying to limit the problems that she is going to cause because it is of course getting worse and from what I have read on this forum it can get a lot worse.
Thank you!!!!!
One child, age two years and three months. Father signed an AOP at the hospital. Was not involved until 21 months old. Has begun to see child between 12 to 20 hours per week. He lives about 40 minutes aways without traffic.
Recently began to threaten court (which is fine.) He says that he is going to get one or two full days during the week and weekend time as well. The thing is that he works full time about 1 1/2 hours away from his house. He does work from home somethimes but it is not an all the time thing. I am a SAHM and attend school at night. He wants our child at his house during the day so that his girlfriend can spend time with our child and not me=(. I get that she will be around our child and I really don't care at this point. I just think a child should be with his mom not some other girl. Obviously I am not ok with that. So a couple of q's?
1) Is he likely to get full days during the week even though he is working?
I fear that he will lie and say he always works from home on certain days so he can have our child during the day when in reality he wont be there and even if he is he will be working and the GF will be caring for the child. I don't mind him having a midweek visit when he is done with work.
2) Is it likely that I can have a very strong no third party interference placed into the parenting plan? Also that the father must do the pick up and drop off and no people besides blood family members can be present during pick up and drop off unless mutually agreed upon?
The father has no family in the state. The reason that I ask is because his GF is a constant problem. I call to check on our son and she starts screaming at me in the background. Calling me names and saying that my child is her's, etc. Our child comes home saying ***** hates mommy. Our childs father allows that and says that our child has two mothers and I need to get use to that. Of course I have no hard proof of this. I can only imagine how she would act during pick up and drop offs. I am just trying to limit the problems that she is going to cause because it is of course getting worse and from what I have read on this forum it can get a lot worse.
Thank you!!!!!
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