child custody

[kharmagreen]

my ex-wife has custody of my 3 year old son. She is remarried now and I moved away because of the military. I was just wondering if it is ever a good idea to sign over my rights as the father. The only reason i would even consider this is because my ex is making it extremely hard for me to talk to him on the phone and refuses to let my parents talk to him. Please help!!

 

[noscrub]

if you truly care about you son, do not give up your rights unless you do not ever want to have contact with him until he turns 18. You have rights too. All you have to do is be willing to fight. Once you have a court order she has to comply or she will be in contempt. There are not many dads that want to be involved, so if you are one of the few that do, think very hard, it is in your son's best interest to know that his father cares for him.

 

[smh33]

Don't give up because then your ex wins and you will only regret it down the road. Giving up rights will not cure your situation and these problems will change as your child gets older. She can control many things now like the phone but, as he gets older, the control will be less. You can always pursue modifying your order to accomodate new living arrangements..such as planned call times, visitation for grands...just start documenting everything...have past pattern of behavior to present if you chose court supporting why you need modification.

There are a very, very great amount of fathers that want to be involved in thier children's life...unfortunately many grow tired , like you, of dealing with the custodial parent that tries to dictate the relationship of other parent with the child. Hang in there!

 

[Meeka]

My fiancee's and his ex-wife have joint custody of their 7 year old daughter, She lives in Indiana and he lives in Florida. The thing is, she is giving him a hard time with him being able to talk to his daughter because we are together. I listen to the phone conversations and she tells his daughter what to say and I even hear her yelling obsenities in the back round. She call's all hours of the night hanging up on us and she does it all the time. She won't even let him have her for the summer time. She tell's him that he need's to move back or she is going to kill his daughter...He is in fear of her life. What can we do...we don't have the money for a lawyer as of right now and we are hurting because we don't want this to happen with his daughter...please, someone help us!!!