child custody

[Ray Miller]

i live in ohio, i am not married to my daughter's mother but we are engaged. while i was spending time with my daughter her adoptive parents went and filed for temporary custody of our daughter because of their issues with their adopted daughter. the adopted parents came to pick up my daughter from me and said nothing about this, needless to say, i am the father and my daughter and i were together. they new that i would be going to visit my mom on the weekend and i found out about this from my daughter's mom late saturday night. i have been trying to obtain custody and was asked to provide three things of which they attorney's and courts had within the week. i still don't have my daughter. i feel as though a breach has taken place, needless to say conspiracy and interference with parent and child relationship. i have been told upon picking my daughter up that it is not about the baby, it's about the babies mother. what eles can i do. the mother of my daughter and i do live together, we both work and provide for our child. we have lived together since before our daughter's birth, almost two yrs now. we don't know what else to do.

 

[ktarra617]

As you and the mother live together and their is no custody or support arrangements, I would assume that the adopted parents would have to file against you as well to take your child from you. You have the same rights to your daughter as the mother does. If they did not file against you I would consult with a lawyer and sue them for interference. On what grounds were they granted custody?

 

[Ray Miller]

Child custody

no papers were filed against me, only against my daughter's mom who has been the custodial parent. her adopted parents have issues with her and want to use our baby as a pawn. when all of this occurred, her adopted parents were asked to bebysit while the baby's mother went on a trip and while i was at work. they knew that i would be visiting my mother for the weekend and begged for our daughter to stay wiht them for the weekend. all the while they were plotting this little scam unbeknownst to me or my daughter's mom. in the past they have been able to coerce and manipulate my daughter's mom, but that had come to an end. mind you these are her adopted parents who do not like the fact that she now has found her biological parents and they have a wonderful relationship. in essence our daughter really has nothing to do with this vandetta. i was served notice of the actions they had taken against my daughter's mom. i did what the attorneys' asked me to do under the impression that they would surrender ny daughter as they said that they would within the week and that has been since oct. 17th. needless to say when i go to pickup my daughter her hair isn't combed, sometimes she's without a coat, diapers and bottle, and they smoke around her. i feel as though my rights have been violated as her daddy, and that they conspired for the purpose of retalliation aginst their adopted daughter. i have my daughter this weekend, and yes when my grandmother and i got to our meeting place, they were smoking in the van with my daughter in it. she had no clethes, no bottle and no coat, and no there was never any visitation orders nothing, but they act as though i can only have her every other weekend etc. now they want me to take a deposition. for what? beats me. i'm frustrated.

 

[ktarra617]

Was there ever a custody order enforced in the courts between you and your daughter's mother? If not then you have just as much right to your daughter as the mom. I would ask your lawyer but what is the adopted parents recourse if you simply refuse to return her to them. Their issues with their daughter should in no way effect your relationship with your daughter. If your lawyer says that they have no recourse to come after you then I would not return her to them. If your lawyer says you have to return the child to them I would start taking a witness with you every time you pick her up to verify everything you say they are doing. Much better to have third party to back you up and document everything you can.

Good Luck!