Child lives with him, but DNA proved he is not his son

[Portcitygal]

My boyfriend has raised his son ever since he was 8 months old. He is now 5 Years old. In order to have all the legal documents, he had a blood test done to establish paternity but the results completely shocked him. The child he has raised for 4 years is not his. What is his next step. Is custody possible for him? Is it possible for him to get his son before the mother since she didn't want him. He is crushed but he still wants his son. Will he lose him? HELP!!!!

 

[LdiJ]

My boyfriend has raised his son ever since he was 8 months old. He is now 5 Years old. In order to have all the legal documents, he had a blood test done to establish paternity but the results completely shocked him. The child he has raised for 4 years is not his. What is his next step. Is custody possible for him? Is it possible for him to get his son before the mother since she didn't want him. He is crushed but he still wants his son. Will he lose him? HELP!!!!

Did he sign the affidavit of paternity when the child was born? Where has the child been living from 8 months old until now? Exclusively with dad or with mom as well? We need a lot more information in order to give any valid advice.

 

[Zigner]

My boyfriend has raised his son ever since he was 8 months old. He is now 5 Years old. In order to have all the legal documents, he had a blood test done to establish paternity but the results completely shocked him. The child he has raised for 4 years is not his. What is his next step. Is custody possible for him? Is it possible for him to get his son before the mother since she didn't want him. He is crushed but he still wants his son. Will he lose him? HELP!!!!

Please have your boyfriend log on to ask his own legal questions. This really isn't your matter to deal with and he may have information that you simply are not privy to. I'd like to thank you in advance for your gracious understanding and cooperation in the interest of providing the best help possible for your boyfriend.

 

[Portcitygal]

We are in Louisiana. He has lived with his dad since he was 8 months and mom gets him once or twice a year for a week. He did not sign anything at birth. She was his girlfriend and they broke it off and she later told him she was pregnant after he had already moved out of town. He was not present at the time of birth. But when she decided she couldn't take care of him, my boyfriend stepped up to his responsibility. He never once thought that he wasn't his.

 

[Portcitygal]

Well he is not going to do that. He is really stubborn and not going to ask anyone anything. But he wants to just pretend that the test never happened and not say anything and keep him. I'm just trying to prevent him from doing anything illegal. And let him know his next steps.

 

[Zigner]

Well he is not going to do that. He is really stubborn and not going to ask anyone anything. But he wants to just pretend that the test never happened and not say anything and keep him. I'm just trying to prevent him from doing anything illegal. And let him know his next steps.

I think it's time you step WAY back and stop interfering in your boyfriend's personal life. This is NOT your show, this is NOT your game.

 

[Just Blue]

Did he sign the affidavit of paternity when the child was born? Where has the child been living from 8 months old until now? Exclusively with dad or with mom as well? We need a lot more information in order to give any valid advice.

MOST IMPORTANTLY THE STATE. Law vary state to state.

 

[Just Blue]

Well he is not going to do that. He is really stubborn and not going to ask anyone anything. But he wants to just pretend that the test never happened and not say anything and keep him. I'm just trying to prevent him from doing anything illegal. And let him know his next steps.

Then there is nothing you can do. Except offer emotional support when his stubborn refusal to deal with reality bites him on the arse.

 

[stealth2]

MOST IMPORTANTLY THE STATE. Law vary state to state.

Post #4 - Louisiana.

OP - your b/f should realize that Mom can come get her son at any time and he will have no recourse. She has sole custody, legally.

 

[Portcitygal]

Haha... lololol well I'm not interfering in anything. He lives with me as well. And I refuse to be accessory to anything. Just trying to see what his next step is... I do a lot of the paperwork and right now I'm I'm trying to get him enrolled into school. But with this just popped up, we are trying to figure out the next step TOGETHER! If you can't just answer my simple questions, then please don't comment.

 

[Portcitygal]

And no I'm not upset, just want to know what we should do. I am an active person in his life. I would never take over his situation just trying to help him because he is so broken now.

 

[Just Blue]

Post #4 - Louisiana.

OP - your b/f should realize that Mom can come get her son at any time and he will have no recourse. She has sole custody, legally.

I saw that...I just stupidly posted with out reading the whole thread...

 

[Zigner]

Haha... lololol well I'm not interfering in anything. He lives with me as well. And I refuse to be accessory to anything. Just trying to see what his next step is... I do a lot of the paperwork and right now I'm I'm trying to get him enrolled into school. But with this just popped up, we are trying to figure out the next step TOGETHER! If you can't just answer my simple questions, then please don't comment.

[SUP]Why is there never gracious cooperation and understanding? [/SUP]

Ok, I'll be more blunt. You simply have no dog in this fight, no clown in this rodeo, no shrub in this garden, etc. You really seem intent on molding your boyfriend to be how you want him...but that never works.

 

[Portcitygal]

Thank you, that was part of my question. Thank you so much. Should he get a lawyer?

 

[Just Blue]

Haha... lololol well I'm not interfering in anything. He lives with me as well. And I refuse to be accessory to anything. Just trying to see what his next step is... I do a lot of the paperwork and right now I'm I'm trying to get him enrolled into school. But with this just popped up, we are trying to figure out the next step TOGETHER! If you can't just answer my simple questions, then please don't comment.

Hire an attorney. They will tell you the same exact things we have. The major difference will be you will pay a few hundred ...We get nothing except your rude attitude. Good Day.