Yes I would consider this to be a violent crime, This is the woman with the "same problem" except I just found out that what was said was true and that it went further than just exposing himself, it just starts there, and gets worse, my husband, I mean soon to be X , got in the shower with her and made her fondle him, and if I would not have believed here, maybe next time he would have raped her, that to me is violent and it has to start somewhere. He is where he belongs, and maybe with any luck mine will be there with him, so he doesn't hurt any other little girls, not even his own. Your supposed to have unconditional love for your children, you gave birth to them not to your husband, start believing what your children say, they don't make up things like that especially at the age of 9yrs they should have no experience enough to be able to make things up like that.
The minute I found out the rest of the story I left, went to the court got a order of protection, and had him removed from the home,and then immediatly filed for a divorce, to protect my 3 daughters and 1 son, It is your job to protect your children not your husband. My husband has no visitation with his 2 children unless it is suppervised.