Child Name Change

[gatherk]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? PA

My daughter is 7 months old and I basically have full custody of her. She has her fathers last name as we were dating when she was born. I have a PFA against her father and he is only allowed to see her supervised. I am planning on going down to file for custody, but I have not been able to. He has not really been a part of her life and I would like to change her last name to my last name. We are not married and never have been. I do not want her growing up wondering why her name is different. How do I go about doing this?
Thanks

 

[TheGeekess]

You don't, not without Dad's permission.

 

[Proserpina]

Or, permission from the court.

 

[ecmst12]

She won't wonder why she has her dad's name. She'll wonder why her daddy doesn't spend time with her. I hope you're preparing an explanation which is honest without saying anything negative about her father.

 

[futuredust]

I have actually seen this scenario play out in court.

Judge: How will changing your child's name benefit the child.
SS: Well she would have the same last name as me
Judge: How will this benefit the child?
SS: So we can have the same name.
Judge: Do you suppose you will one day marry?
SS: I certainly hope to one day, yes.
Judge: Would you take your husbands name?
SS: Of course I would take my husbands name (puzzled look)
Judge: Then the child's name would not be the same then either.
Request denied.

 

[DAD10]

Uri Geller comments...

I have actually seen this scenario play out in court.

Judge: How will changing your child's name benefit the child.
SS: Well she would have the same last name as me
Judge: How will this benefit the child?
SS: So we can have the same name.
Judge: Do you suppose you will one day marry?
SS: I certainly hope to one day, yes.
Judge: Would you take your husbands name?
SS: Of course I would take my husbands name (puzzled look)
Judge: Then the child's name would not be the same then either.
Request denied.

You have a vivid imagination.
Until the Judge says this-then time will tell.

 

[futuredust]

You have a vivid imagination.
Until the Judge says this-then time will tell.

Excuse Me?..

Are you calling me a liar, seriously?

I have been in and out of family court far too many times to count and have had first hand witness to many situations.

I find your attitude and your remarks highly offensive.

 

[Proserpina]

Alrighty then - you both want to take this into PM? Oh, you do?! Most excellent!

I'll make some more tea, and we'll get back on topic hmm?

 

[DAD10]

We can agree that we disagree.

Never implied OR said you were a liar.
I did say that time will tell-and that a Judge would decide.
if you find that offensive-well thats your problem.

 

[futuredust]

There is nothing to take to pm, I posted about an actual case I was witness to, he called me a liar.

**correction- he said I made it up**

Semantics

I would surmise had someone said the same of you, you might also correct them.

 

[DAD10]

Fair enough

 

[Proserpina]

Are you refusing tea?! I have a case of the vapors, indeed!

'k. Carry on

 

[DAD10]

Prosepina-I would love to have tea with you
However since that is not possible tonight,
I must opt out for the jacuzzi-it relieves me of my custody case if just for
a few.


Nite forum

 

[Ohiogal]

Are you refusing tea?! I have a case of the vapors, indeed!

'k. Carry on

I'll take some tea with honey and whiskey. Oh heck forget the tea and honey and just give the whiskey straight up. My throat hurts, my eyes burn, my head is throbbing, I have the chills and have been up for 7 hours at this point (and it is only 9am). And I am planning for war. So pass the whiskey.

Anyone have any chocolate?

 

[TheGeekess]

I'll take some tea with honey and whiskey. Oh heck forget the tea and honey and just give the whiskey straight up. My throat hurts, my eyes burn, my head is throbbing, I have the chills and have been up for 7 hours at this point (and it is only 9am). And I am planning for war. So pass the whiskey.

Anyone have any chocolate?

Milk and dark, dark up to 90%. What would you like?