What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? IL
I have to be deposed on Dec. 7, as well as ex. I am trying to get him to pay back support and expenses since 2009. I have been in court asking for same since 2009. His attorney sent a notice of deposition on Dec. 2. She added a rider asking for documentation such as child support payment information, emails from me regarding consultation to him about my mother providing daycare, etc. My questions basically are:
1. Can they demand and am I obligated to come up with everything at this late date?
2. He has the info on child support - there is a withholding notice through the state. I don't mind providing it, but I only hot the demand on Friday. Not enough time to get the information together (depostion was ordered more than 2 weeks ago).
3. My parents have been providing childcare almost continually since prior to divorce in 2008. He did not have a problem until we had to start paying in 2009, and then he never notified me in writing that he disagreed or gave other options. I do not have any extra emails/documentation for years, because there was no change except for one 5 month period, and even then he refused to pay the actual daycare they were at. (they did not request any documentation on that daycare at all, yet he has never reimbursed his half of that either). (BTW - had to go back to parents because he stopped paying cs and I could not afford other daycare - I do have an email to that regard)
4. They go to public school, he knew where we lived, I gave him district info. Was I obligated more than that? He never responds to emails, gave info in ways of receipts, etc. in emails, now he wants emails, etc showing that I gave the info. This is a person who has not been in contact with teachers, parent teacher conferences (he was notified), IEP meetings for our child. What would they be trying to accomplish?
5. He does not, nor has he since divorce attend any counselling/medical visits. He demands documentation on doctors they were seeing BEFORE divorce and info on medical advice recommended by pediatrician (that part I did email). He even got the judge to make a recommedation (NOT an order) that I can never make a dr. appt. during his time - even though it may be the only time a specialist can see the child.
I am very nervous about deposition. I do not lie, I keep seperate email just for communications with him (usually one sided only - he never ever responds except to demean and criticize).
He wants to be "let out of" paying any medical bills for services needed for a child that desperately needed services and I received NO input even when I asked numerous times. I even requested in writing he research a specialist for the child and he did not respond for 5 months and then only to give me the names of 3 hospitals and that was his input! He said choose a dr. there and that was it - I had asked for 3 names and he did not comply.
BTW - he has not fully complied with discovery requested over a year ago, nor has he "updated" the folling 2 ordered times either.
Do I have to comply with it all? It was not ordered in the order for depostion, as I stated, just requested as a rider less than a week prior to deposition.
Thank you for any and all advice!
I have to be deposed on Dec. 7, as well as ex. I am trying to get him to pay back support and expenses since 2009. I have been in court asking for same since 2009. His attorney sent a notice of deposition on Dec. 2. She added a rider asking for documentation such as child support payment information, emails from me regarding consultation to him about my mother providing daycare, etc. My questions basically are:
1. Can they demand and am I obligated to come up with everything at this late date?
2. He has the info on child support - there is a withholding notice through the state. I don't mind providing it, but I only hot the demand on Friday. Not enough time to get the information together (depostion was ordered more than 2 weeks ago).
3. My parents have been providing childcare almost continually since prior to divorce in 2008. He did not have a problem until we had to start paying in 2009, and then he never notified me in writing that he disagreed or gave other options. I do not have any extra emails/documentation for years, because there was no change except for one 5 month period, and even then he refused to pay the actual daycare they were at. (they did not request any documentation on that daycare at all, yet he has never reimbursed his half of that either). (BTW - had to go back to parents because he stopped paying cs and I could not afford other daycare - I do have an email to that regard)
4. They go to public school, he knew where we lived, I gave him district info. Was I obligated more than that? He never responds to emails, gave info in ways of receipts, etc. in emails, now he wants emails, etc showing that I gave the info. This is a person who has not been in contact with teachers, parent teacher conferences (he was notified), IEP meetings for our child. What would they be trying to accomplish?
5. He does not, nor has he since divorce attend any counselling/medical visits. He demands documentation on doctors they were seeing BEFORE divorce and info on medical advice recommended by pediatrician (that part I did email). He even got the judge to make a recommedation (NOT an order) that I can never make a dr. appt. during his time - even though it may be the only time a specialist can see the child.
I am very nervous about deposition. I do not lie, I keep seperate email just for communications with him (usually one sided only - he never ever responds except to demean and criticize).
He wants to be "let out of" paying any medical bills for services needed for a child that desperately needed services and I received NO input even when I asked numerous times. I even requested in writing he research a specialist for the child and he did not respond for 5 months and then only to give me the names of 3 hospitals and that was his input! He said choose a dr. there and that was it - I had asked for 3 names and he did not comply.
BTW - he has not fully complied with discovery requested over a year ago, nor has he "updated" the folling 2 ordered times either.
Do I have to comply with it all? It was not ordered in the order for depostion, as I stated, just requested as a rider less than a week prior to deposition.
Thank you for any and all advice!
