killerzoey
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? HI
If I offer to take low amount of child support for a few years to offset STBX's travel expenses subsequent to my relocation with our children, what will happen if our kids and I end up requiring public assistance? I understand that the government will find and try go get money from a non-paying NCP. What will they do if they see a low amount ordered? Try to have it recalculated or something like that? I'm just trying to look ahead to any possible problems with what I may want to propose.
The idea of the move is to cut expenses and regroup financially by living with my family. Separated 7 months now, girls live with me and are solely supported by me this entire time. Divorce trial pending. STBX is being elusive with his income and I am nearly out of money supporting our girls, so I can't even afford to offer the typical "if I can move I'll pay for your travel" thing.
I would prefer to get child support and have us split the travel expenses (he has access to LOTS of money), but I don't have the time or money to prove he has this access. Mostly I don't have the time. Very nearly broke. I'm trying to avoid staying here in this state and becoming a welfare mom. I've posted about this general thing before- I'm far from my industry and the only worker in the family. Need to get back where I can support our kids. But depending on how much the legal fees end up being I may start out in debt even after relocating, so for all I know we may need some assistance anyway to get back on our feet without having to go bankrupt. Not forever but I can see perhaps temporarily. Hence the question. Thanks.
If I offer to take low amount of child support for a few years to offset STBX's travel expenses subsequent to my relocation with our children, what will happen if our kids and I end up requiring public assistance? I understand that the government will find and try go get money from a non-paying NCP. What will they do if they see a low amount ordered? Try to have it recalculated or something like that? I'm just trying to look ahead to any possible problems with what I may want to propose.
The idea of the move is to cut expenses and regroup financially by living with my family. Separated 7 months now, girls live with me and are solely supported by me this entire time. Divorce trial pending. STBX is being elusive with his income and I am nearly out of money supporting our girls, so I can't even afford to offer the typical "if I can move I'll pay for your travel" thing.
I would prefer to get child support and have us split the travel expenses (he has access to LOTS of money), but I don't have the time or money to prove he has this access. Mostly I don't have the time. Very nearly broke. I'm trying to avoid staying here in this state and becoming a welfare mom. I've posted about this general thing before- I'm far from my industry and the only worker in the family. Need to get back where I can support our kids. But depending on how much the legal fees end up being I may start out in debt even after relocating, so for all I know we may need some assistance anyway to get back on our feet without having to go bankrupt. Not forever but I can see perhaps temporarily. Hence the question. Thanks.
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