child support laws not working

[nbish]

The child support law is if you don't pay you go to jail
Well I think they need to find better means of punishment
if the father or mother is in jail no one wins no one gets anything
they need to come up with a system that get the support to the custodial parent ... Maybe make them do community work in which support is paid for work completed. I also think that in most cases that the absent parent be forced to spend time with these children or else.... Not only do they need $$$ they need both parents in their life a male and a female figure.... Its sad to see so many child not having 2 parents because of adult arguements or misfortunes...... Some how if the absent parent was to spend time with the child then maybe he or she would become attached and love their child ...... So more than $$$$ a child needs be wanted and loved ...... Not that money is not important too....

 

[tigger22472]

I agree with part of your statement. The county I live in now puts parents that are behind in child support in jail on work release and take I believe 80% of their pay and to give the children. Too bad my order isn't in this county.. However I have to disagree with you about forcing parents to spend time with their children. I tried that with my ex and it didn't work, besides that after over two years he's still bitter and resentful. He fills our children with lies. They aren't little white lies. They are things like he's dying or that he doesn't see them as often as he'd like because I wouldn't allow it. This is when I was providing all the transportation for the hour(one way) trip for them to see him. It's a better situation for my boys not to be around him... they realize that he's not been around all this time and when he has all he's done is harm them.

 

[qtpie]

SOMETIMES, the absent parents wants to be involved, but because the CP sees NCP as nothing more than a bank, the CP stoops to brainwashing tactics and poisons the childs mind. Thus, the child refuses to have any kind of relationship with the NCP. The child loses out on knowing another part of its family, and the NCP loses out on knowing their child that they are paying CS for.

My point is: There are many, many NCP's who diligently pay support, but are wanted for nothing more than that.

 

[qtpie]

Amen!