child support

[groundpounderz]

from washington. my girlfriend and i haven't been getting along and i was in the process of selling my house and getting out of the relatonship. she's been on birth control for 4 years, all of a sudden she's pregnant. i heard from some people that it was done intentionally to keep me from leaving her. if it can be proved that she quit taking the pill behind my back to get pregnant by me, can i legally get out of the situation without paying child support, by seperating myself from her and the baby. is there a legal way of getting out of being intentionally trapped? she's only 1 month pregnant right now. she has a six year old daughter from her ex fiance. i have no other kids with her.

 

[Roscleo]

You were not very clear about the whole situation so I am not sure exactly what you are asking. Did she get pregnant by another man? Is the child yours? If you do not know if the child is yours then get a DNA test before you sign anything. How old is the child? Have you been paying support and just found out about new information? How long have you been with you gf?
I would be able to help you more if there is more information to go on.

 

[Ashlee1443]

Are you implying that the child in question is the product of a relationship between your girlfriend and someone else, or are you saying that you believe that your girlfriend "tricked" you into getting her pregnant?

First, if you believe that the child is not yours, then you are not expected to support the child. A paternity test will solve the problem.

If you think that you were "tricked" into getting your girlfriend pregnant, and now you want out, then think again. I seriously doubt the girlfriend twisted your arm, and forced you into having relations, which resulted in her pregnancy. There's many,many arguments you hear everday..."she said she was on birth control...she said she couldn't have children"...Bottom line, you play, you pay. If you fathered a child, you are legally responsible for the financial support of him/her. You are not bound to this woman, but you are expected to help her support this child...which personally, I don't see why you wouldn't be interested in the raising of your child, but that's another topic. No if,and's or but's. The courts won't hear it. Always remember that there's always the risk of pregnancy when you're intimate. If you aren't ready to be a parent, be more responsible. Good luck.

 

[Cookie97128]

Shame on her.

It's really unfortuniate that a child would be brought into the world this way. She should really be ashamed of herself. She must be really young to think this way.
Do you have any other children with her, since you were with her for four years? Does she have any other kids?
I would suggest fiing for as much visitation as possibe if not full custody when the child is born. Your friends can paint a background picture for you as to why they think she got pregnant, but that won't help you in court.
You can go to all prenatal visits if she allows it. I don't know if there is any legal way you can do this without her consent. (Help???) This will establish that you are totally involved with this child. You could think of this as a blessing to you. You made a child. It's your son or daughter or both??? Twins? I know, not funny. Take some time to think this over. There is no way that you will ever get out of the responsibility of this child. Unless she has someone else adopt the child when he/she/they are born. Even if she just doesn't name you as father. She can and probably will come back later and hit you hard... Seeings that she knew you were breaking off the relationship, she got pregnant and doesn't want to let you go. Expect the worst. You can run, but you can't hide and you shouldn't want to.


I wish the best to you and your baby.
Good Luck and God Bless.
Cookie

There are many single fathers out there.

 

[hisdaddy]

If you think that this isn't your child and you can prove it by means of a paternity test after the chidl is born, then no you are not responsible.
However, if you're saying that she got pregnant byYOU behhind your back, who are you kidding? If this is the case...what is usually the outcome of intercourse by nature? Offspring!
(If this is not your question then pay no attention to this)

Child support is not a paycheck for her. Believe it or not, if she didn't get it, your child would suffer the consequences more than she would. The kid would go without things for survival, extras like toys etc. But if this is proven to be your child, you are responsible anyway. It is very expensive for a Custodial Single parent to provide a child with what he/she needs to survive and grow up in a healthy environment. And that what you will help provide, a healthy environment for your child...some dad's aren't even forced to give enough to feed a dog on each week which is sad for the child. Good luck

 

[Cookie97128]

I have to agree on this last point.

It is very expensive for a Custodial Single parent to provide a child with what he/she needs to survive and grow up in a healthy environment. And that what you will help provide, a healthy environment for your child...some dad's aren't even forced to give enough to feed a dog on each week which is sad for the child. Good luck

I totally agree. I went from 30 per week per child for 8 years to 40 per week per child. I have two under this court order. They are teenagers. And I don't remember getting all of the support each month for more than 5 months at a time. SO sad.

 

[Cookie97128]

groundpounderz

Don't edit your orginal post to answer the questions. Post a new reply. Thanks...

 

[Illinois Parent]

Just a question here...

However, if you're saying that she got pregnant byYOU behhind your back,

...exactly how does a woman get pregnant by a man behind that same man's back...seems to me someone may be having...biological issues?
Perhaps it IS better that this person does not procreate.

Sorry, I just couldn't resist.

 

[hisdaddy]

Man, the bottom line is this:
You had sex with this lady, you are equally responsible as far as protection goes. If you were so concerned about getting this woman pregnant accidentally or if you were watching out for yourself in the past, you would have worn a condom and you would not be in this mess. Now you have a child on the way. There is nothing that you can do about the past. It is screwed up if she did stop taking birth control without your knowledge or your consent, but you are equally responsible to protect yourself. So you are going to have to move on from these things that have taken place, and focus on the child that you have on the way. It is your blood,and if you don't take care of this kid or have nothing to do with him/her you will be missing out on so much, and one day you will look back and regret it. Time to face reality in a positive, responsible manner. If you are looking for sympathy from a judge you are not going to get it. Sorry that you were wronged by your girl, but that is over with. Don't make this child suffer from her mistakes. The kid doesn't deserve it.