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beachgirl
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i am in North Carolina and i am getting ready to pursue child support for my daughter. the BD lives in va. and i believe he has a job where he is payed in cash, not to mention it is by his brother. he has 3 other children and another on the way but he only pays cs for one of them. i was a teen when i had my daughter and he was too. i did not let him see her until last year and she is ten now. he tells me that if i go for support he will make sure it looks like he makes min wage and also says he will swear he knew nothing of her until last year. he did know about her soon after she was born but i did not do things the way i should have until last year when i made him take a paternity test. reason being partly because i didnt want to be involved with him and deal with crap from him and partly because i met a wonderful man when she was 1 and have lived with that same man now for the last 9years. my boyfriend has always taken care of my daughter and myself. i also have another daughter with my boyfriend who is now 6 and even though we are not married , we all live the same life that a married couple and family does. i know i was wrong and selfish not to let her BD see her buti was 18 and when i found out i was pregnant with her and went to tell him, i found out he had another girl pregnant too.my emotions took over and i was angry so i didnt try to let him see her and just to set this straight, he never tried to see her either. my daughter has a half sister who is 4months younger than she is. it was a hard to deal with situation and i should have done differently then but now that i have grown up and realized that it doesnt matter what is best for me or anyone else but what is best for my daughter and her happiness, i want him to know her and her him. maybe i shouldnt go for support but i feel she deserves support from both BP's now that he is around. i tried to do all this when she was 4years old but he could not be found not even by cse of nc., so its not like i meant to wait till she was this old for him to know her, it just happened to be when i finally found him again. that is why i know he gets cash for pay...he was in the system for over five years and never showed up once. i need to know if i should go for this support and if so..will they look at my boyfriend's income too since we have a daughter also and i do not currently work? and can they try to get any kind of back support? i dont really care about back support but i want to know if he was lieing to me when he said no because he denies he knew of her.plus i think he knows how to minipulate the system beings he has 4kids and pays around 100 month for only one out of any of them. And this man is out there still makin babies!!! Please help me understand this ...thanks