of course not/ child support is for the parent to support the child in their best interest. Be stron w/ your son. He still needs that. Of course, I am not a lawyer, just a loving parent who understands the needs of children. Don't let your son intimidate you.
No, no no. The support is for the parent, to reimburse in a way of the costs of the child. the parent who is collecting has a right to do whatever they see fit. if your son has a problem with money, and would like some, have him call the support payer and ask for money directly.
This is obsurd however, and when you file for child support, the parent is rewarded the order, not the child.