chose navy life over baby and wife!

[blue4trin]

Washington state.
Anyone familiar with military life? My brother called his wife during the second month of a six month tour at sea and said he wanted a divorce. she convinced him to wait, well when he got home, he still didn't want to be married, so he only showed up about six times in the last 4 months. There was an alotment (sp?) set up for his wife and the baby for housing expenses. Well, she moved out of the apt they had been renting, and he took care of changing the alotment, so it would not go to the former landlord. He told his wife he would have that money go into their checking account, so she could continue to pay their bills. He didn't do that, he put it into his own acct, and the rest goes to payments on his newly acquired pickup. He is in Florida at recruiters school, and she is in Washington without enough money. I suggested she call a lawyer at the Naval base for advice, and they told her she was a conflict of interest. When she asked why, they said they couldn't tell her that.
I think she should just go get a lawyer, she is worried about how much it will cost. Does anyone know why she is a conflict of interest?? And any ideas what she should do next?

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

and the rest goes to payments on his newly acquired pickup.

My response:

. . . and what's wrong with that ? Every man needs a pick-up truck ! Babies, food, clothing, and housing, when compared to a pick-up truck, the truck wins "hands down". Any judge will tell you that !

Only in America.

She's got a conflict of interest because he's the one working for the Government - - not her.

She needs to get her own attorney and file for support, etc. The Government will enforce the court orders - - but, they can't represent her, or tell her what are her options.

Good luck to all concerned.

IAAL

 

[LegalBeagle]

What she needs to do is contact his commanding officer and explain what he has done. Most of the time, this will prompt some immediate and surprisingly good results. If this does not work, find out who the next commander is and chew him a new hole.

 

[blue4trin]

Thanks for the help!! I think she hesitated about contacting his commanding officer, because she is still being nice about this whole thing. I guess she isn't mad enough yet!! (She was afraid he would be pulled from recruiter school and stuck back on a ship.) I say he deserves everything that comes his way!!
I will urge her to get her own attorney to protect herself and her baby. Thanks again!

 

[Grandma B]

The Beagle knows what he's barking about; start with his immediate CO and move right up the chain of command until there are results. He wouldn't automatically be removed from the recruiting school. His future would depend on how he deals with his "problem" once his superiors have been advised.

As for his being stuck on a ship again, that's where he belongs. In fact, maybe they could start sending all deadbeat parents to sea!

Besides, we don't really want him here in Florida, but she's welcome to come here if she brings some of Washington's rain with her!