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[CarrieWest]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Texas

My attorney and I are getting the paper work together for my ex for his visits. However I have a question about a passsage

it is ordered that during his respective periods of possession XXXX as a parent possessory conservator shall have the following rights and duties

2. the duty to support the child, including providing the children with clothing, food and shelter.

My question is this my attorney has advised me that when my daughter begins to go over there on the weekends to send her in one pair of clothes and nothing else because it is his responsibility to provide anything else for the time she is with him.. Is this so? anyone have some good advice on this issue? I have heard from other people I could get into trouble with CPS if I do not send her with clothes

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Buy some inexpensive clothes that dad can have over there - or just give dad some extra clothes. When time comes, dad can buy some down the road.

Now, would dad send everything back if you packed an overnight bag? I always send my children with clothes - they know to pack it up and bring back cuz **I** won't replace what they forget.

 

[wileybunch]

My question is this my attorney has advised me that when my daughter begins to go over there on the weekends to send her in one pair of clothes and nothing else because it is his responsibility to provide anything else for the time she is with him.. Is this so? anyone have some good advice on this issue? I have heard from other people I could get into trouble with CPS if I do not send her with clothes

Is that your attorney's sole reason for advising that? Because it's "his responsibility"? If so, to that I say I don't agree with that line of thinking. Pack her suitcase as you would for any trip (whether you pack it or she does, however you do it). Please don't play games over her CLOTHES. If Dad's not returning clothes routinely and leaving DD in a pinch for clothes when she gets back home, that's another matter. I can't imagine who is serves being this petty "just because."

 

[truebluemd]

is dad having overnight visits with the child now? and if so, are you sending overnight bags? If yes, then I would say dont change that.

 

[CarrieWest]

He use to have overnights and he made a comment that landed him with supervised visits. Now his visits are getting ready to be weekends overnight supervised by his mother. When he had overnights before I would not send her with nothing because I was told by my attorney not to. If I continue to do this will it get me into any type of trouble. I only took her word as she was an attorney

 

[Zigner]

Poor Kid...

 

[wileybunch]

My memory just came back ... with a perusal of previous threads.
OP, you have done more than your fair share of things to try to frustrate Dad's relationship with his/your child. Don't hide behind your attorney on this one. It's not a legal issue. LEGALLY you may be able to do that, but you can also be a very crappy parent and still be LEGALLY alright (except you can also show a pattern of behavior with enough of those "alright" things).

I'm glad you at least came here and asked. Gives me hope maybe you're starting to realize you've made some bad moves in the past.

 

[Ohiogal]

My memory just came back ... with a perusal of previous threads.
OP, you have done more than your fair share of things to try to frustrate Dad's relationship with his/your child. Don't hide behind your attorney on this one. It's not a legal issue. LEGALLY you may be able to do that, but you can also be a very crappy parent and still be LEGALLY alright (except you can also show a pattern of behavior with enough of those "alright" things).

I'm glad you at least came here and asked. Gives me hope maybe you're starting to realize you've made some bad moves in the past.

Re the bolded: SHE IS a VERY CRAPPY PARENT. And I don't see where she even acknowledges that she ever did anything wrong.

HEY OP, did you ever get your home study done? Or were you too busy griping because he was five days late with child support?

 

[Ohiogal]

He use to have overnights and he made a comment that landed him with supervised visits. Now his visits are getting ready to be weekends overnight supervised by his mother. When he had overnights before I would not send her with nothing because I was told by my attorney not to. If I continue to do this will it get me into any type of trouble. I only took her word as she was an attorney

You do realize what the bolded sentence actually says? How many negatives do you plan to use in a sentence? You are quite frankly pathetic. Your child and her needs should be FIRST -- not your stupid assinine vendetta against dad. BOTH of you need to grow up because quite frankly your daughter will soon surpass your maturity level. How sad.

 

[DawnPlusTwo]

Personally, OP- Think about your daughter. Don't you want her to have as smooth of a transition as possible when going with Dad for the weekend? I would WANT to send things by child was familiar with (I know when my daughter was 3-4, she had several favorite dresses that she just HAD to wear everywhere) Send some of her favorite things to make her comfortable while at dad's. Clothes, toys, books, a favorite movie. Anything to make it easier for HER. She will soon get comfortable at dad's house and have new favorite things at his house as well. Remember, material objects can easily be replaced.

I think she would be about the right age to make a game of packing her suitcase to go to dad's. Kids actually really love things like that.

Good luck. I hope for a smooth transition for your DD.

 

[Silverplum]

I think she would be about the right age to make a game of packing her suitcase to go to dad's. Kids actually really love things like that.

My 9 y.o. niece cheerfully packed her own bag for a 4-day family reunion: it contained a swimsuit. Moronic SIL/BIL didn't check the bag.

Not that your idea -- and coparenting attitude -- isn't great. Just have to check on the little creatures sometimes.

 

[Ohiogal]

Personally, OP- Think about your daughter. Don't you want her to have as smooth of a transition as possible when going with Dad for the weekend? I would WANT to send things by child was familiar with (I know when my daughter was 3-4, she had several favorite dresses that she just HAD to wear everywhere) Send some of her favorite things to make her comfortable while at dad's. Clothes, toys, books, a favorite movie. Anything to make it easier for HER. She will soon get comfortable at dad's house and have new favorite things at his house as well. Remember, material objects can easily be replaced.

I think she would be about the right age to make a game of packing her suitcase to go to dad's. Kids actually really love things like that.

Good luck. I hope for a smooth transition for your DD.

You have a GREAT ATTITUDE. HOwever this crew (OP and her ex) are not on your maturity level. They are playing games to see who can "win" the most and screw the other over. Apparently screwing each other once to conceive the baby was not enough so they continue in their ways until they can then DESTROY the child. Their daughter is going to have years of therapy bills. (Read the history if you ever want to see why I am of this opinion.)

 

[Rushia]

My 9 y.o. niece cheerfully packed her own bag for a 4-day family reunion: it contained a swimsuit. Moronic SIL/BIL didn't check the bag.

Not that your idea -- and coparenting attitude -- isn't great. Just have to check on the little creatures sometimes.

Mine would pack their swimsuits and half of their toys. Underwear? Who needs it? Shirts? Naw, we don't need no shirts Ma. As long as Punk has his Bakugan, Peanut has her Ponies and Pipsqueak has his trucks, they are happy.

 

[DawnPlusTwo]

My 9 y.o. niece cheerfully packed her own bag for a 4-day family reunion: it contained a swimsuit. Moronic SIL/BIL didn't check the bag.

Not that your idea -- and coparenting attitude -- isn't great. Just have to check on the little creatures sometimes.

Just a swimsuit? Oh my... Did she at least come home with a good tan?

And yes, of course, check up on the bugger. When my little one went to stay with PawPaw (my dad) she packed her own little Barney suitcase with things she wanted. And I packed her overnight bag with things she needed. Different sitch, I know, but still...

 

[Ohiogal]

Just a swimsuit? Oh my... Did she at least come home with a good tan?

And yes, of course, check up on the bugger. When my little one went to stay with PawPaw (my dad) she packed her own little Barney suitcase with things she wanted. And I packed her overnight bag with things she needed. Different sitch, I know, but still...

Yes different sitch. Because YOU are mature and putting your child before any bitterness you might have towards the other parent.