Concerned about my son

[lanne6]

What is the name of your state?California
I have a seven year old son who has never had a good relationship with his detached, uninvolved father. Father has been given one week in July and one week in August for vacation time. Sundefinedon says he won't go, and is expressing violent fantasies about what he will do to the judge if she forces him to go. He says he'll "go nuts" if he has to be with his dad for a week.
As far as I know, he hasn't been mistreated, although his dad is quite cheap with him.
Any thoughts on how to handle this.

 

[stealth2]

So.... what would you do if your son told you that he'll go nuts if he has to spend a school year with a particular teacher and shared violent fantasies about what he will do to the principal if she forces him to go to that class?

Children do not make these choices. Period. If he's got anger issues and has violent fantasies, however - maybe he needs to be in some sort of therapy.

 

[lanne6]

Yes. He is in therapy. Anybody have any ideas about frequency and type of therapy that you all have found beneficial?

 

[titansfan]

7 yr olds dont get to decide visitation

your son doesnt have a choice-he either goes for the visitation, or you could be held in contempt, be fined, jailed or lose custody alltogether. i dont know for sure just how much therapy he will need, thats up to the counselor. there are sone places that may offer a sliding scale fee-a set fee based on your income.talk to his therapist and see what he/she recomends.

 

[dallas702]

.....and I darned sure wouldn't let the judge know about these "fantasies". If the court thinks you are in any way responsible for his bizarre behavior, or that you cannot convince him that such thoughts are completely inappropriate, he could be taken out of your custody.