mylilchulo
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? NY
My sister is currently going though a custody battle with her ex-boyfriend over her 3 year old daughter. He doesn't pay the court ordered child support, she has filed two violations already. and he misses most of his visits, he cancelled five out of the last seven. Yesterday he was awarded overnights. I don't understand why if he doesnt' make most of his visits now. This has been a long drawn out case. He often postpones or doen't show up for court and my sister has lost two jobs because of all the time she has had to me. The judges response was "He hasnt' pissed me off enough yet." The child does not want to go with him when he comes for her and it is one of us that convinces her because he just its there like a lump. The law guardian only met her a few months ago when she came home wiht black and blues and grab marks saying daddy bit me, daddy hit me. He was at that time given more visitation even thoug hthe CPS report said that there is a possibility that the father did this. Since going to her father's house (first unsupervised visit was on her second birthday) she has become more defiant, hits everyone, and says such things as daddy is a bad boy, daddy got in trouble, and nanny was yelling at daddy. The other day she came home saying that she got in trouble for putting chapstick on the walls. When asked where everybody was she said dady was watching tb and nanny went to drive Jim to work. Obviously she was not being properly supervised. She often says "daddy was too busy watching tv to play with me, daddy was playing his game, daddy went to his friends house, daddy was sleeping. The views this as poor parenting choices. Why should my sister give up time wiht her daughter to send her to a house where she is being ignored. The court also doesnt' want to hear about the nightmares she has at night, which sadly my sister had to start recording, in which the child screams and cries in her sleep "go away, leave me alone, i don't want to talk to you, don't touch me, no daddy, i don't want to hear you." Her behavior is not a factor. Her behavior at school even starting to change but they don't want to hear any of that. The law guardian is totally biased and on his side ebecause he kisses her butt. When my sister calls her regaurding the childs reaction when her father comes to pick her up she says "That is not my problem, deal with it, i'm not concerning myself with it, your her mother make her go." My sister wants to take legal action against the law guardian and the judge but is afraid it will cost her the baby. If anyone has any advice please help.
My sister is currently going though a custody battle with her ex-boyfriend over her 3 year old daughter. He doesn't pay the court ordered child support, she has filed two violations already. and he misses most of his visits, he cancelled five out of the last seven. Yesterday he was awarded overnights. I don't understand why if he doesnt' make most of his visits now. This has been a long drawn out case. He often postpones or doen't show up for court and my sister has lost two jobs because of all the time she has had to me. The judges response was "He hasnt' pissed me off enough yet." The child does not want to go with him when he comes for her and it is one of us that convinces her because he just its there like a lump. The law guardian only met her a few months ago when she came home wiht black and blues and grab marks saying daddy bit me, daddy hit me. He was at that time given more visitation even thoug hthe CPS report said that there is a possibility that the father did this. Since going to her father's house (first unsupervised visit was on her second birthday) she has become more defiant, hits everyone, and says such things as daddy is a bad boy, daddy got in trouble, and nanny was yelling at daddy. The other day she came home saying that she got in trouble for putting chapstick on the walls. When asked where everybody was she said dady was watching tb and nanny went to drive Jim to work. Obviously she was not being properly supervised. She often says "daddy was too busy watching tv to play with me, daddy was playing his game, daddy went to his friends house, daddy was sleeping. The views this as poor parenting choices. Why should my sister give up time wiht her daughter to send her to a house where she is being ignored. The court also doesnt' want to hear about the nightmares she has at night, which sadly my sister had to start recording, in which the child screams and cries in her sleep "go away, leave me alone, i don't want to talk to you, don't touch me, no daddy, i don't want to hear you." Her behavior is not a factor. Her behavior at school even starting to change but they don't want to hear any of that. The law guardian is totally biased and on his side ebecause he kisses her butt. When my sister calls her regaurding the childs reaction when her father comes to pick her up she says "That is not my problem, deal with it, i'm not concerning myself with it, your her mother make her go." My sister wants to take legal action against the law guardian and the judge but is afraid it will cost her the baby. If anyone has any advice please help.