Confused

[Father-in-pain]

What is the name of your state?Ohio

I have just become the CP of my 3 year old daughter here in Ohio and her mother is packing up to move to Florida. She was awarded extended parenting and will get our daughter 2 months per year during the summer. She wants equal say so over our daughters education, religion, and medical aspects even though she is electing to leave our daughter. Now, if she is the scorned and disruptful type, how will this work. If our daughter is living with me here in Ohio what happens if every aspect of my daughters life is challenged by her mother. Example......"I dont want her going to that school", "I dont want her seeing that doctor", "I dont want her going to that church", etc.. Any help is appreciated.

 

[CJane]

Just make sure that in your parenting plan, the 'legal custody' is stated as "Joint-legal with the residential parent having final decision making powers in the event of a disagreement relating to eht welfare of the child." Or something along those lines.

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state?Ohio

I have just become the CP of my 3 year old daughter here in Ohio and her mother is packing up to move to Florida. She was awarded extended parenting and will get our daughter 2 months per year during the summer. She wants equal say so over our daughters education, religion, and medical aspects even though she is electing to leave our daughter. Now, if she is the scorned and disruptful type, how will this work. If our daughter is living with me here in Ohio what happens if every aspect of my daughters life is challenged by her mother. Example......"I dont want her going to that school", "I dont want her seeing that doctor", "I dont want her going to that church", etc.. Any help is appreciated.

CJane made a good point, and you might be able to getting wording put into the order to that effect, but people also misunderstand "joint legal custody" as well.

Joint legal custody means that both parents get to make ordinary decisions during their time. Routine medical care is "ordinary", therefore mom can't say, "I don't want her seeing that doctor". Its the extraordinary where an agreement is necessary....major things.

The same applies to schooling. Unless you plan for the child to be in private schools, mom has no say. The child will attend school in your school district.

The same basically applies where religion is concerned. You both do your own thing on your own time. Unless one of you is "non-mainstream" a judge won't micromanage you in that arena.

What I am saying is that you have to view things based on how a judge would view them. Many parents over-react on both ends because they don't understand that.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

It would have been helpful if you had added the fact that your little princess is a special needs child which will give you as the custodial parent more say in these matters. If your ex objects be sure to get clarification from the court or ask to have a Guardian ad Litem appointed to represent the best interest of your child. You will also need to make sure that during the time of extended parenting in FL that appropriate access to services are prearranged. It would be wise for you to accompany the child to or from FL to ease any anxiety your child may have or problems adjusting to the hot humid climate FL enjoys in summer. Does she have a shunt?

 

[Father-in-pain]

Does she have a shunt?

Hello,
Yes, she does have a shunt.