Thank you HomeGuru for your response. I've paid thousands to an attorney that has given us less help than your two paragraphs. This whole mess has taken a huge toll on me and my wife physically and mentally and we greatly appreciate your advice.
Here are some extra details that might give you a clearer picture: 1) The builder not only owned the lot but had already taken out the construction loan for his comparably priced spec house, so he is paying his subs and himself with our money. 2) The contract was originally for a fixed-price project he had quoted, but then convinced us to try CostPlus. All that was really changed on the original contract was that we would get copies of all invoices in groups every 30 days. 3) The invoices have no breakdown in most cases for materials or labor, just a total cost. 4) This Cost Plus contract did include a cap. As part of this "scam", at the beginning of the project, the builder insisted on sending the project out to a "professional" estimator (a buddy of his). The estimate came back at $350,000. for a 2200 sq. ft. house that is basically a two story box with a drive-in garage. We were blown away at which point the builder assured us that he could do the project for about 10% less than the estimate, which led to a final cap of $310,000. which was still high for our area. In most cases, the price runs close to the square footage. (2800 sq = $280,000.) Because he assured us that there was at least 15K fluff in his price and my wife's desire for house and lot, I proceeded. 5) We have no architect. We used a stock plan from architect Stephen Fuller. My wife made some changes to the plan by flip-flopping the kitchen and the great room and adding some extra doors. the builder has used this as an excuse for everything from mistakes to price overruns that he didn't have a true blueprint to work from. The thing about that is that before construction started, we requested that the changes be taken to a draftsman or in some way put to paper and were told he didn't have time for that, that interest was mounting on his loan and he was sticking to his original contruction timeline for his spec house and that his framers would be able to frame from the 8 1/2 x 11 sketches my wife and I had drawn. This has been a major theme throughout the project, that the show must go on and he doesn't have time to discuss anything that has happened in the past. As it turns out the framers did has problems building from our sketches and I ended up having to go on-site for a couple of days and guide them as to where doors and walls would go. We were later presented with a framing bill that included 3k in extra charges for lost time due to confusion with these changes. The whole project has felt like being on a runaway train, which I think has been his intent from the beginning to be a smokescreen for the builder. 6) The allowances we were given have proven to be woefully inadequate. First of all, allowances should not be any part of a Cost Plus since we are paying for whatever we select, but the builder says they are necessary because of the cap. As an example, the HVAC allowance he gave us was $7500. Remember when he was setting the allowances, he had our blueprint and could have gotten bids. I'm sure he put no effort into it, probably just guessed, because the estimate that came back from his sub was just under 13k. This has been the trend at every step of the project: way low allowance, bid comes back around double, we are given a change order to sign for the difference for the project to proceed. At this point I am sure the builder has eaten up the supposed 15-20k in fluff with his padding (and probably more) and the builder claims we have overages of around 59k.
7) Our banker called us and told us that the builder had called her probing as to how much money we had and was relentless in his quest for personal info. We read that as him fishing for how high he could take the project. That can't be legal! 8) We had tried to force the builder to order our windows from Home Depot instead of his lumberyard since it was one of the larger costs of the project. It would have meant a savings of around 5k. He agreed to place the order with Home Depot, his only concession of the process. I feel this was only to make it look like later that he had tried to make "every effort" to save us money should we end up in court, because after getting HD out to the site for measurements and pricing and telling us the order was placed and us thinking our windows were on their way from HD, right before they showed up he tells us "Oh, by the way, I had to order the windows from my supplier because HD screwed up the order, but don't worry, I got my supplier to come within $1200 of their price. Right. I'm sure that somewhere within the endless list of non-itemized invoices is probably a little something for the buddy supplier. After talking back to the guy at HD after the order had been cancelled, he told us there was no problem at all with the order, that the builder had just out of the blue cancelled it. When we confronted the builder he said the guy at HD was a liar. We talked back to the guy at HD and he told us the builder had called HIM again wanting to know why he had talked to us, threatening him for giving us confidential information (everyday HD pricing?),what pricing he had given us, dates, times, etc. Not the kind of thing an honest builder does on a straight-forward Cost Plus.
We are currently looking for a construction attorney but need to know based on all this from your experience what things this builder has done illegally and unethically to allow us to put pressure on him to make it right. Thanks for taking the time to help us.
LosingSleep in NC