court update

[Naturalmom]

What is the name of your state? NJ
Today was a shocker ...motion filed by ex for extended visitation ,2 weeks vacation,holidays, lower support , drop arearrs ,change daycare,life insurance and out of pocket mediacal expense. Presently there still is a restraing order FRO . Many mtions filed by my ex with much slander and nad false allegations. SO the judge denies him lowering the support and dropping the arrears, wants proof of the life insurance policy orders that the uncovered medicale in as the same propotions as the support 53/47. Me being the 53%( I carry the medical insurance). The judge felt that I did not prove enough that vistation should not be enlarged as now so he order...... Currently because of his antics the current vistiataion time Every saturday 9-1 now the new order EOW friday 6to saturday 6pm til january 2003 when it will become friday 6 to sunday 6 with me being allowed to pick my daughter up to bring her to church and return her afterwards. Dinner visit on wednedays first every wednesday til 2003 then EOW. The judge did not even listen to my request of not overnight guests during that time,It was not in our cross motion. My lawyer and I where not perpared for overnights considering all the concerns and such presented in all the previous history of this case and to date. It was like he was over compansating,forget . We expected maybe saturday 9-7 but not overnights. The judge did not listen it was like his own agenda for fathers there is enough on record evidence and history,that this was not the time for overnights to be granted.

 

[Naturalmom]

spoke to my lawyer today, He feels that the best interest did me in becausse I did not raise enough concern about her care while with him and because I said I might concider One overnight a month. The problem is the evaluator did not complete my sentences accurately I said "I would consider one over night a month after the age of three if he showed to be responsible person" So be very careful for those who are reading that even though it is pounded into your head about being accomdating and trying to be agreeable with the other parent Your agreeableness might be taken you are not truely concerned as much as you say you are........ By the way this evalution was done a year ago, and now they are holding me to it In ayears time many things can change as well as actions .

 

[Grace_Adler]

You just can't win for losin' can ya? Good Luck with everything.

 

[Naturalmom]

Fisrt overnight happend . Our child came back like a banshee, like she was on a sugar high . Not listenign It took several hours before she decompressed. Father still doing all the little things just to bug me,but I won't give the satisfaction of a response. I also find she will not tell me how things went while there,like she is being told not to tell,but she will tell her daycare everything, so I must wait til monday to know ......