CP controls time

[faithnlve]

NCP has kids every other weekend. NCP goes out with her mom for 3 hours every friday night. Now CP is telling mom he is keeping track of when she is not their with kids and will take her to court and show she is not with kids every other weekend, and out 3 hours at night. Threatens to change visitation time so mom loses more time, can he do this?????

 

[acmb05]

NCP has kids every other weekend. NCP goes out with her mom for 3 hours every friday night. Now CP is telling mom he is keeping track of when she is not their with kids and will take her to court and show she is not with kids every other weekend, and out 3 hours at night. Threatens to change visitation time so mom loses more time, can he do this?????

I dont know legally what he can do but as far as the NCP is concerned, she only has her kids 6 days out of the month and spends 2 of those days going out with her mom. She needs to lose the time. Why even bother to get the kids on Friday if she knows she is going out? Let CP keep them and NCP can pick them up Saturday morning

 

[faithnlve]

NCP has tried to change friday night to another night, CP refuses, says stick to the schedule. Mom also has kids every Wednesday and works nights. The only night she has free to see her mom is on friday nights. Its 3 hours that night not the whole frickin day and night. So, your saying the NCP can't have any activities on her weekends with her kids? You have got to be a controlling CP.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

NCP has kids every other weekend. NCP goes out with her mom for 3 hours every friday night. Now CP is telling mom he is keeping track of when she is not their with kids and will take her to court and show she is not with kids every other weekend, and out 3 hours at night. Threatens to change visitation time so mom loses more time, can he do this?????

What state?
Are you NCP?
Why doesn't mom have primary custody?
What exactly is mom doing with her mother and who is watching the children?

 

[faithnlve]

Vermont is the state. Not unfit mother, father has custody, long story. Man, why is it because the mom doesnt have custody its automatically assumed there is something wrong with mom all the time? Anyways, oldest daughter who visits is 15 and watches her younger brothers for 3 hours on ONE NIGHT ONLY..this is for the first person who responded without understanding what was stated. Daughter takes mother who is disabled to bingo.

 

[acmb05]

NCP has tried to change friday night to another night, CP refuses, says stick to the schedule. Mom also has kids every Wednesday and works nights. The only night she has free to see her mom is on friday nights. Its 3 hours that night not the whole frickin day and night. So, your saying the NCP can't have any activities on her weekends with her kids? You have got to be a controlling CP.

I did not say she could not have any activities planned on the days she has her children. I stated that she only has them 6 days a month you would think she would skip those two nites that she takes her mom to bingo or get someone else to go with her.

She just needs to look at what is more important to her. Spending the 3 hours with her mom or with her kids. I know if I only had 6 nites a month with my kids I would not schedule anything that did not involve them.

Anyway as far as your question I dont see a judge taking her time away just for this reason as she is doing nothing that is illegal or against the custody orders, unless it states in the orders that they cannot be left with a sitter

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Vermont is the state. Not unfit mother, father has custody, long story. Man, why is it because the mom doesnt have custody its automatically assumed there is something wrong with mom all the time? Anyways, oldest daughter who visits is 15 and watches her younger brothers for 3 hours on ONE NIGHT ONLY..this is for the first person who responded without understanding what was stated. Daughter takes mother who is disabled to bingo.

Don't get hostile with me, how can I give you advise without facts? If dad tries to take away time under these conditions it is unlikely that will be granted, however, Is it possible to take your mother to bingo another night or drop her off and pick her up? Your 15 yo daughter will not be too happy about babysitting for long unless that is what is behind this now?

 

[faithnlve]

i work other nights, and on wed have kids too. friday is the only night to go. I have the kids from fri at 3 in afternoon until sunday at 5pm, plus every wednesday, and 6 weeks in summer. My mom is legally blind, but not completely blind, but i sit with her to help her play. I am not able to spend other daytime hours with her since I have two little ones in school for 4 hours a day. If my mom could drive she would be over, but its very hard for her. Plus she is getting on, and one night a week for 3 hours is not alot. The kids are ok with this, so why should the ex have anything to say? I actually spend more time with them even if less days per month. He is in an athletic group on tues and thursday nights, ball room dancing on wednesdays, and at his fiances house on his weekends with our kids and has his mom watch them. So I in reality have them more than he does. quality time wise that is. I think I am just going to tell him to mind his own business and too bad. If he goes to court to change days, I will just tell the judge he is still obsessed with me...lol Thanks Faith

 

[LdiJ]

i work other nights, and on wed have kids too. friday is the only night to go. I have the kids from fri at 3 in afternoon until sunday at 5pm, plus every wednesday, and 6 weeks in summer. My mom is legally blind, but not completely blind, but i sit with her to help her play. I am not able to spend other daytime hours with her since I have two little ones in school for 4 hours a day. If my mom could drive she would be over, but its very hard for her. Plus she is getting on, and one night a week for 3 hours is not alot. The kids are ok with this, so why should the ex have anything to say? I actually spend more time with them even if less days per month. He is in an athletic group on tues and thursday nights, ball room dancing on wednesdays, and at his fiances house on his weekends with our kids and has his mom watch them. So I in reality have them more than he does. quality time wise that is. I think I am just going to tell him to mind his own business and too bad. If he goes to court to change days, I will just tell the judge he is still obsessed with me...lol Thanks Faith

I really don't think that you have anything to worry about. You have them from 3 PM on so its not like you are missing the entire afternoon/evening time with them.....plus, I really don't think that the judge is going to be too impressed with dad when he/she finds out that dad wants to take time away from you because you are spending three hours of your weekend taking your disabled mom to bingo....

 

[faithnlve]

Thanks. Wasnt sure, ex seems to think since he has custody, he has "all" say in everything and anything even when our children are with me..their mother. Faith

 

[tandkchoate]

My ex has every other weekend visitation with our son, and the majority of the time, when I drop our son off, he is NOT there, and he is on call most weekends for his work-- I would much rather our son be at home with US, considering we are at HOME and pretty much take them with us everywhere and to most activities-- BUT, I also look at it this way-- the time his father has to spend with him is HIS time-- if he chooses or does not arrange to be at home and spend that time with his child for his visitation, then it is HIS loss-- our son is at THEIR house with his stepmother, so he is in a safe environment, so it's not like he's left alone or something-- but he is visiting-- and spending time there-- he doesn't see his father much, but he is also learning a lesson from that as well, and I don't have to say a word -- We have first right of refusal in our paperwork, but as long as he is there with his stepmother, then I don't make a fuss- kids learn many of their priorities and what adults find important this way-- so, unless, the kids are being left alone, I don't think there is a lot that can be done-- ???