Crossong a Line

[Tulsa]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? Tx

This may sound silly but my wife has just crossed a line and has hit me during the course of an argument. No physical damage but a line has been crossed and I want / need her to know that this is unacceptable.
How do I get this put on record ? Do I need to call the Police ?
It was a saucepan this time but I guess she couldt as easily picked up a knife... She wasn't particular as it was the nearest thing to hand.

I don't feel threatened in any way but just want out and this gives me the motivation to do it. Can I also assume that any child custody for her will now be gone if I report this ?

 

[HomeGuru]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? Tx

This may sound silly but my wife has just crossed a line and has hit me during the course of an argument. No physical damage but a line has been crossed and I want / need her to know that this is unacceptable.
How do I get this put on record ? Do I need to call the Police ?
It was a saucepan this time but I guess she couldt as easily picked up a knife... She wasn't particular as it was the nearest thing to hand.

I don't feel threatened in any way but just want out and this gives me the motivation to do it. Can I also assume that any child custody for her will now be gone if I report this ?

**A: call the police.

 

[Tulsa]

Crossing the Line II

Thanks for the quick advice.
If I call the Police then what will happen ?

I feel incredibly stupid for even talking about this but know that she'd have called them straight away if I ever lifted a finger to her (Which I will not do)

The last thing I need is for her to be chucked in Jail...I just want it to be recorded somewhere so it can be dragged out during the almost inevitable divorce.....

 

[HomeGuru]

Thanks for the quick advice.
If I call the Police then what will happen ?

I feel incredibly stupid for even talking about this but know that she'd have called them straight away if I ever lifted a finger to her (Which I will not do)

The last thing I need is for her to be chucked in Jail...I just want it to be recorded somewhere so it can be dragged out during the almost inevitable divorce.....

**A: ok, don't call then. Since there is much more to this story, I'll wait until you tell more.

 

[Tulsa]

Part III

So what do you feel is missing ?
The basis of this is that my wife and I married in 2000 in order that she could come with me to my new job in the US (Mistake #1). We'd known each other for 10 years before hooking up but things were going downhill before we left the UK.
Got to the US and she couldn't work (Known before we left) but she immediately "shut down" and did, by my definition, nothing. She then got a job.. And then pregenant (Not planned) in January 2002.
Since that point life has been horrible.....
Major financial decisons were made on the basis of 2 salaries and then it cut to 1 almost immediately....(Mistake # 2)
Lots of rows and arguments since baby was born in Oct 2002. This was the one that went over the edge.....
I grew up in an abusive household and know that this will never work....And should have walked a long while ago. If she leaves she takes my son with her and goes back to the UK / Seychelles. I do not want this to happen hence the 'idea' of reporting this....

Help. Please.....

 

[stealth2]

You don't get to use the cops as a way of scaring her, making a point, or teaching her a lesson. Or simply to document her abuse. If you call them, you call them with the knowledge that they may well arrest her.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Foreign nationals in the country with marriage of convenience, child is us citizen, mom hits dad with saucepan, no injuries? Not reported to police. If reported to police, mom gets arrested, deported and child stays with dad, sounds like a plan
You two both should return to the UK and work out your domestic issues there.

 

[Tulsa]

I completely agree..... I wish that I could return to the UK and resolve this issue. However this is not a viable option unless I/we are prepared to damage the family financial status beyond repair.

Thanks for the humane response rmet4nzkx....I guess you must be a really highy regarded professional with comments like that
(Let me know if you need help in understanding sarcasm)

Stealth,
And that is the reason why I don't want to call the Police.